To admit I really hate my life

[pinkhollyhock]

I am the only carer for disabled teenager. I am lonely, isolated, unhappy and worried for them and for me. Money worries and other worries and I’m sorry it’s all getting to me today.

I'm really sorry to hear that @pinkhollyhock: I don't know what to say, only that you are not alone-there are some lovely people on here. How old is your teen? Would it help to share some of your worries?

Don't be too hard on yourself! You have two choices: 1. Beat yourself up & be negative, 2. Choose to see the light within & be positive!

There is Love Everywhere & only you can decide if you want to see it!

You can feel sorry for yourself & be a victim to having a horrible time or you can dust yourself down say something nice about yourself, smile & be the Best you can!

I bet your a very loving, kind, caring person so give yourself a hug, listen to a favourite song, go outside for a walk, look up at the sky & smile- don't waste your time or energy feeling bad, choose LOVE, choose You! Be Brave & list 10 nice things you love about yourself💕

Unmumsnetty hugs Pink we're listening if you want to vent

Didn't want to read and run...that sounds really tough. I'm sure plenty of posters, including me, will be happy to listen to you vent...and maybe some will have been in the same situation and can offer you some advice. Until then

Is there a carers support group in your area? Can you arrange some respite help? Also, local churches may be able to send a volunteer to sit with your teen and allow you to go out once a week to pursue your own interests or meet up with friends. It’s hard to keep cheerful when you feel you are struggling alone - you need some back up, and some things to look forward to.
Sending you a hug, and putting you in my prayers. I hope you manage to access some support.

Oh dear,is there anyway,you can get some very important,well deserved,needed ''you'' time. Is there anyone,charities,carers,who can help? It's so so important you have a life,outside of caring for your son. Op what do you mean,when you say your worried for them,other kids you have?

Thanks. Child would never accept someone else caring for him. That’s one of the things that makes it so very difficult.

I have no life at all. Not just because of DS but also because I’m on my own, I have no money. Just sat here trying to untangle how and when and why things went so badly wrong.

Oh OP - you sound like things are hard right now - I think the idea of finding support for yourself is a good one - charities, carers organisations etc - it must be hard doing it all alone

Would ds adapt over time? I don't mean to say his needs aren't paramount....but so are yours Are you sure your receiving all the finance help your entitled to?

*financial

Like pp has said would ds adapt over time because independence is something to strive towards because you may not always be around to support him.

@pinkhollyhock . Sounds incredibly hard. I am an all-alone parent to a three and seven year old. It's really hard. But I'm very aware I benefit from their growing independence and the fact they can be left with sitters.

I take my hat off to you, I really do.

Sounds hard pink
A lot to deal with.

Op,are you okay? I really hope you are,and if not,come back on here anytime,some beautiful,strong women on here,with words of wisdom,understanding,advice..... Just hope your not feeling too alone,or in despair x