At what point AIBU (when to TTC)

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Trying, and failing, to make this short! To summarise (and try and prevent drip feeding):

1. New job mid April. Still public sector (so I have mat pay straight away), but different organisation and going into Dept B (only ever worked in Dept A). Team are all completely new, three of my role, and we report into one person, that's the whole team.

2. Role is developmental ish, manager only expects me to do it for 1-2 years, I have been up front that I see my long term career in Dept A. They will 'fully support me' and are shaping the new job to ensure I can get the maximum out of it possible, on paper they seem great. Although someone on my panel apparently said I will be pregnant within a few months which has annoyed me!

3. I want(ed) to work in Dept A. I took a job in Dept B because jobs so rarely come up in Dept A. If a suitable role in Dept A doesn't come up in the next few years at this organisation, I would move to another organisation (it would hamper me going back to Dept A long term if I am out for much more than three years I would say).

4. DH and I have been together over six years (married nearly two). House is mortgaged but big enough for DC, he is nearly 30, I'm 26. Both very keen for DC sooner rather than later. TTC'd for four months last year with no luck, concerned it could take a while/could have a miscarriage even if I do get pregnant.

5. I love public sector and am very values oriented, I want to make a difference and this is why I want to push on into more senior roles. I am frustrated by the glass ceiling and how tricky it seems to be for women in their 30s with DC to push on and out of middle management. I think it would be easier to side step out sooner rather than later and push on career wise by my mid 30's with mat leave etc being done (not sure if we want one or two).

Disclaimer:
Thought my last job was great because they made all the right noises, but it proved to be untrue, hence I job hunted. Wary of being swept along in the currant in new role when I think I should focus on DH and I more than I have previously (have been doing so last 9 months or so).

So, if you managed to make it to the end, how soon would be far too soon to TTC in the new role without BU?! I think I have a window of approx 3 years before I need to be out of this job, and want 9 months mat leave in there somewhere...

You're over complicating it hugely. If you want kids, just get on with it! Especially if you tried for four months previously and it didn't happen.

I wouldn't worry about how long you have been in the job before ttc as it may not happen straight away anyway.
If you are lucky enough to conceive straight away , all being well you are still going to be there for approx 8 months before going on maternity leave.
Try not to worth about the job as it won't help. Healthy diet, stress free as possible and enjoy trying.
If you are unlucky enough to need help, as you are civil service personnel/hr should be able to advise of what leave/support you are able to get.
Good luck.

You are in the exactly the same position as me so I'd be interested to see responses too. DH and I have talked it over about a million times, both very keen for kids and have reasons to believe it may not be as easy as we might like it to be to conceive but it never feels like quite the right time! Maybe we are over thinking it and do just need to get on with it...

Interesting responses so far, not what I expected! I was expecting a host of 'you're completely taking the piss until you've been there a year' type of responses. Maybe I'll get a flurry of those now!

Definitely an over thinker. Hmmmm

Not from me you won't. If you start trying to concieve now - it can take a while. There is no right time to gave a babay. You just have to close your eyes, hold your nose and jump off the cliff.

As the previous poster said even if you get pregnant tomorrow you will still be there for another 8 months. These days, there could be a budget cut and reorganisation and you'd be out of a job. Chances are you will still be in the job a year.

Baby - jot sure what happened with the above spelling

Start now so you can be back at work in your 30s when the big promotions start.

Just do it

I was promoted last November when I was pregnant and i started maternity leave a month ago. I am being promoted again whilst on leave and will go back to a different role entirely.

There is never a “right time” to have a child.

Gosh still responses I wasn't expecting! Makes sense though and it's really reassuring because I wasn't sure if I was being crazy impatient and therefore not very rational. DH will be pleased

KC225 that really made me smile. I can normally always find something that makes me hesitate and I think part of it probably is the need to do as you say and jump off that cliff!

I was you at that age, trying to plan my family around my career. Then it took me 2 years to get pregnant, then 2 miscarriages, ended up having dc1 4 years later than planned. Just keep in mind that things don't always work out as expected.

Do you have a spreadsheet for all this?

Take nothing for granted, if you want DC and are ready and can provide for them, the concentrate on that. The job will work out regardless.

I'd wait three months, starting a new job is tiring, and then by the time you go on mat leave you'll have been there a year so plenty of time.