To not call dd a fussy eater even though there’s lots of things she doesn’t like

[GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat]

I don’t know, it’s doesn’t cause any issues for me so it’s not important.

Dd will eat her meals really well. She likes all meat, all vegetables and all fruit. She likes pasta, potatoes, rice, noodles etc etc.

She doesn’t have a sweet tooth and doesn’t really like ‘party food’. So when she gets invited out to friends’ houses or parties I know she comes across as fussy. However, I’m really loathed to describe her as such because she eats and drinks so well at home. She never complains or whines about it. She will try things she hasn’t had before but equally there are things she knows she doesn’t like and will just say no thank you. She’ll eat it if she’s genuinely hungry but often happy to wait.

So as an example
She doesn’t like jam- will eat ham, cheese, tuna, salad, peanut butter etc.

She doesn’t like jelly or icing. Will eat biscuits, plain cake, ice cream.

She doesn’t like pizza (this seems to be the biggest problem as it’s a default kids meal!)

Also doesn’t like popcorn, cream, hot chocolate, marshmallows, and what I would call sickly sweets. She loves chocolate though!

I don’t plan on doing anything about it because I’m perfectly happy with her not liking these foods but is it unrealistic to think she’s not a fussy eater?

My son has huge problems around food. He eats very few foods. It doesn't cause us any problems, his friends parents accept him as he is. No one calls him fussy. He mostly takes his own food to other people's houses. Don't really understand what the problem is with your dc, we all have foods we don't like. That is normal.

YANBU. As long as she's getting balanced nutrition just let her carry on. Making a big deal of it and calling her fussy is just going to lead to food issues in the future.

I don't think your DD sounds fussy, she just knows what she likes/dislikes and there's nothing wrong with that!

On a side note, even if your DD was a fussy eater, I'd still back not calling her a 'fussy eater' in front of her/to others.
Beware of the self-fulfilling prophecy! A child who hears 'you're a fussy eater'/'oh, you don't like x food, do you' is only going to live up to what they hear...

Doesnt sound fussy at all. I wouldn't want to encourage a liking for junk if not there. Warn party hosts that she doesn't each much and ask her to eat before she goes to parties so there is no problem.

Sorry I lost this thread!

She’s off to a party today at a trampoline park and I know they do pizzas for parties there. Not a problem at all, I’ll make sure she eats before she goes and let the hosts know not to worry if she doesn’t eat.

YANBU. Our eldest is restrictive in what he will eat too but eats healthily. He also won’t eat pizza (or pasta) and as it is essentially just a form of ‘junk food’ it’s fine with me. We have taken the same approach regarding eating out, and taught him to say politely ‘it’s lovely but I’m just not hungry thank you’ if people are persistent. We also taught him if he’s away on a camp or similar to eat everything he might be able to eat even if he’s not keen as the next meal might be something he really hates. So he will then eat the mince from a lasagne for example. Provided their staple diet is healthy I don’t think it’s a major issue.