More of a what would you do? really

[Slightlyperturbedowlagain]

This concerns an acquaintance through primary school though the relevant dcs are now at a big secondary. Her youngest dc and our eldest both play in a sports team on a Sunday morning, her DH also sometimes works weekends so we sometimes help her out by having her dc back here after for a short while when she needs to take her eldest somewhere, which they reciprocate occasionally when it helps us. We also do lift sharing to the training one night in the week. This morning our dc was asked to go on somewhere else after for a development session, her dc was not. She turned up at the match and asked my DH if her dc could come back home with ours afterwards. DH explained not possible today as they were rushing off (and I am elsewhere with our youngest) at which made a snide comment and stormed off. This is the second time she has done this recently, I think it’s because she feels aggrieved her son hasn’t been selected for the extra session, but this is not up to us. DH is pissed off, didn’t say anything but I think if she does it again he will explode. I am wondering about texting her to ask her politely to keep her thoughts to herself. WWYD?

Let it go. That's what I'd do. It's no big deal that she's frustrated.

I think it depends on what the comment was. If the snide comment iwas about your son or at you inability to have her son that day then yes I would call her out on it as it was rude an unnecessary. If it was because your son had extra and hers didn’t, then refer her to the coach.

Jealousy is not a nice trait and if this is the second time she has done it, I would reconsider the shared pick ups etc.

Why do anything?

She is understandably upset for her child, and might be compromised by you guys reneging in a reciprocal lift arrangement (? I'm not sure) but shouldn't be making snide remarks. Equally your dh, as an adult, shouldn't be about the explode if she does.
No need to say anything, just let it go.

Yes don’t need to do anything, if it had been me she had said it to then I would probably have responded by saying ‘whatever’ and walking away. I think she feels we were underhand by not mentioning it, but we didn’t because we predicted this reaction so kept quiet about it.Tbh I find her quite moany which is why she never became a friend. DH finds it stressful as he tends to bottle it up but then explode. Her husband is lovely, polite and self-effacing and I don’t like the residual undercurrent or her wingeing on to other mutual acquaintances about us being 2-faced when we really haven’t been. I hate this aspect of small-town life

and might be compromised by you guys reneging in a reciprocal lift arrangement
No we would never do that, on Sundays it’s only if she asks - and the first we heard about her wanting that was this morning.

Thanks everyone, will just let it go and hope she calms down and thinks better of it next time- though if she doesn’t she might get an earful from DH. and maybe it would be deserved-