AIBU Or is this bloody bad manners?

[TheOnlyLivingMumInNewCross]

So cross!
Just taken all my make up off, put my pajamas on and have settled in for a night of crap telly after what has been a trying week.
Just after sitting down, the phone rings. It's a, I say friend of both DH and I, but we've not seen him for years, we live in different counties and the last time we saw him and his partner they reminded me of why we hadn't made an effort as they were loud and embarrassing.
The guy is a conspiracy theory, UKIP voting but May liking racist and I've recently muted him on Facebook.
Apparently, without prior warning, this couple are driving to Wales in a campervan and have decided to "drop in and stay over on the way."
No "is that ok?" No "if you wouldn't mind?" They are about 14 miles away and will be here soon.
I am really cross!
It's awful manners to just decide to descend on people isn't it? Especially when you've barely spoken in 3 years.
I have just told DH he is a twat as he could've said we were out, or busy or had moved to a desert island or something other than OK.
There goes my bloody peace and quiet.

Simplest thing was to say you are both Ill and not fit for visitors of any kind.
I agree, drop ins like that are crass.

The op was a bit misleading, if it's just od friends wanting to pop in and catch up then as you weren't the one who took the call you're not sure how they phrased it. However I wouldn't it consider it rude no. Inviting them selves to stay, yes, but phoning in advance and your partner agreeing, no I'd have no issue with them.

Yes, they are terribly rude!

I mean yes it's rude, but people tend to be rude when it suits them and they get something out of it if they know you'll happily be pushed over and acquiesce! So they were rude but only able to be because your DH didn't have the backbone to say no, which means this sort of thing will always keep happening. Boundaries are a thing!

I see he finally sorted it.

Book yourself in to a nice little B&B / spa... with hubby's bank card?

You aren't home are you ;)

Oh shit they've arrived haven't they... good luck.

I can't really see why they're friends tbh, you clearly don't like them. I don't blame you for not liking them, I hate racists, but why would you put up with them? Just bin them. Life's too short.

Your DH needs to develop some boundaries and learn to day, 'No, sorry, that doesn't work for us.' And more importantly, he needs to run things by you before agreeing.

Yes it's rude of them and I would be peed off having to entertain possibly at such short notice, but...they have accommodation, so very little effort required. Frozen pizza, cheap,bottle of wine, nice to see you, byeeeee.

Done and dusted.

Poor DH though, he wasn’t expecting them to ring and invite themselves! Most of us caught out like that would probably automatically say ‘Err yes, sure, ok’. Especially those of us who are British 🤣

If he doesn’t get them on their way he’d better order a bloody nice Dog Box.

I'm back!
It was remarkably brief in the end and peaceful. DH did say we'd have been more set up for a visit if we'd known sooner and they did apologise.
I think the thing is, distance, parenthood and age has changed how we view people we never thought anything bad of before. 12 years ago we used to have each other over all the time. But then we moved miles away, had kids and clearly became boring types
That and we didn't have Facebook back then. It's mad how your opinion changes when you can see what they share or random statuses.
DH has brought me chocolate so most is forgiven.

Wow, that was brief! Well done DH! 🍷🍫

Many years ago I caved in and made a FB account, for a specific group, no one I knew had a ‘fake’ name on there, so it didn’t occur to me to do that. I have a few family members that make me 🙄 badly in RL,but on FB they are beyond eye rollingly bad. I wouldn’t like them if I only knew them online. This was definitely a contributing factor to me not using it once the group thing was over. It’s better I don’t know the inner workings of a lot of my family - and some friends.

Well done Dh I had something similar happen to me I had a letter out of the blue from my American school pen pal, that after no contact for over 5 years that she was coming to England and would love to visit/stay and her parents with me for her 3 week holiday!!! I was in my final trimester of my first pregnancy which gave me the umph to send her a quite shitty email explaining my feelings about her plans on decending on me! Never heard from her again! But who thinks that that’s ok?!

Ha ha Lady bird that's awful.
Well done for standing your ground.
And Facebook. It's a whole new world. Glad we didn't have it when I was younger.

It's up to DH. Let him deal with it and say you have Dand V bug