To want to move house?

[SkaPunkPrincess]

We rent, the house we are in is perfectly fine.

I have seen another house that ticks all the boxes and also has all the things we wish the house we are currently could have.

It's more in rent but not unaffordable. DH doesn't want to move but has reluctantly contacted the agent for a viewing.

My DS1 tonight before bed has cried and asked me if we are moving house and that he loves our house and can we buy it and live in it forever.

I have asked DH if he told DS1 about my proposal...... question avoided.

AIBU to think he should just tell me himself it's not an option for him? Not use DS1 to make me drop it out of guilt.

I don't really mind not moving, but I browse what's available occasionally and this house really is lovely. off road parking, bigger garden and kitchen, upstairs bathroom and room for a dishwasher. It even has an extractor fan in the kitchen (oh the luxury)

I now feel guilty and have had to reassure DS1 that I have no plans to move us so that he settles off to sleep.

I am annoyed. Link to the house for those who are curious, it's so nice!
www.rightmove.co.uk/property-to-rent/property-53051934.html

If providing a dining table is part furnished I think it's a piss take. Kitchen very small too. All relative though. I'd have it out with DH, he shouldn't be playing mind games!

If you think that kitchens small, you should see my current one backsaccraic 😂

Are you renting now in the hope to save up and buy in a few years?

If so, stay where you are- you’ll be able to save more and put it towards a house like this- which will be your own. If you have no intentions to buy, then yes- move!

No way would we be in a position to buy any time soon unfortunately. It would be lovely but No one is willing to sacrifice for it. At least at the moment.

He was definitely out of order to talk to your ds about it before you’d even looked at it let alone had a proper conversation.

Just up the road from me! Would it involve your DS changing schools or anything like that? What is the reason your DH doesn't want to move? I think to know if you or him are being unreasonable we need more details. Did he tell your DS or has he overheard you?

no need for school change. no answer to the question he is at work atm

It’s lovely looking house but it backs on to a train line and is sneezing distance from the m1... that alone would put me off! However, your DH should not be using your DS to manipulate you like that. As you rent, staying in your current house might not be an option forever. If your landlord turns round and says they’re selling up your DS will be devastated because your DH has convinced him that moving is the end of world... and all because he couldn’t actually have a real conversation with you. I’d be really annoyed.

I emailed him about it earlier. we haven't had time for a verbal discussion

Nice house, but looks unfurnished to me.
Is your son old enough to even be part of this discussion?

Not really constant which is why I am annoyed