About friends 13 year old?

[lemonsherb]

I really would like some honest opinions about his as I am not sure if I'm being OTT. I found out today from my friend that her 13 year old son has been watching porn. My friend is devastated. My Dd often goes to their house. My Dd is 9.
I was seriously assaulted by three teenagers all on separate occasions before I reached the age of 12. One was my friends brother. I don't know if this is normal to feel like I want to ask her to make sure my Dd is never alone with him. Should I explain to my friend why I feel like this? AIBU anyway and was I just unlucky and shouldn't assume all boys are like this? I really feel uncomfortable about it but want to respond in a normal and reasonable way as I try to not let these things affect me.

Unless you have reason to believe he's showing her porn, I think you need to try and calm down a bit and maybe seek some therapy for the way that your past experiences are still causing you difficulty in the present day. I'm sorry for what you went through, that sounds very hard. You clearly want to protect your child but I see no evidence she is at any danger, it'd be quite rare to find a 13 year old who doesn't watch porn!

There’s a very, very similar thread on here from the opposite view point.
(just in case you want to protect your anonymity irl) xx

Watching porn doesn't make him a sex offender

Okay so perhaps IABU. I appreciate the feedback. My concern is not that he will show her porn but that he will do something to her that he has seen.

I see.

I think if he's a child who's prone to assaulting others he's likely to do so whether or not he's seen porn.

Most teenagers watch porn, most don't sexually assault others.

I definitely recommend looking into therapy if you haven't already 💐