I would be rude to cancel wouldn't i??

[BearsandHearts]

Hello. Please help and hand me a grip. I've been seeing a guy my friend knows via her husband. Prior to our date she told this guy about my past i.e. I've had a boob job and have three kids and was quite bitchy. Anyway I ignored her and went out with him anyway and had a great time. Tonight he wants us to meet the 'friend' and her dh for dinner but I really don't want to. I have to go don't I?

I wouldn't have agreed to go to this. She's a cow.

I know but I don't want to be the moany woman he's seeing

We've seen this post before haven't we....?

Go and prove to her that not everyone is as judgemental as her and you're happy despite your boobs and your kids coz he likes you for you ! Rub it in lol

face up to her, that despite her interfering, he does actually like you.

I'd go, kill her with kindness and pretend you know nothing of her behind your back bitching. Watch her squirm.

Make sure your boobs are the guests of honour!

I'm sure I'm having deja va  I've read something like this before!

But I would go and hold my head up high, just be safe in the knowledge that she's a cow and your not!

I remember your other thread OP. Go. Be yourself. Enjoy your double date. If she was trying to put him off you then you've won here already.

Although I'd be on guard for any other subsequent bitchy comments during the night. If they happen, rise above and say sth like "sorry?" Like you didn't hear properly then "what d'you mean? "

I don't have a boob job or 3 dc but I felt for you on that thread!

You posted this last week, didn't you?

If you don't want to go, don't go.

Don't shy away from her though - you've done nothing wrong.

I posted about going on a date with him a few weeks ago but this is another issue

No. Just say you'd rather not go out with those two as you don't bother with them too much these days. Wasn't there a thread about this a while ago.

“I'd go, kill her with kindness and pretend you know nothing of her behind your back bitching. Watch her squirm.”

Genuine question, does anyone have an actual example of when killing someone with kindness actually worked? As in, made them feel bad?

What? All i read was boob job

I remember your other thread too OP, it’s nice to see an update. Clearly he didn’t give a shit about this woman’s meddling

I also remember your last thread.

I'd say you don't HAVE to go, and you absolutely could cancel. But don't.

Go.

Be fabulous and watch her have to deal with that.

But it wasn’t behind your back? She told you what she had said.

Everyone has a past,including her.Go and make your boobs the matron of honour.Really rub it in

Def go and have fun. Be yourself - he clearly likes you. Don't rise to any cattiness as you will look silly. She may actually be feeling a bit foolish and embarrassed anyway, well maybe!

I think that life is too short to spend it socialising with nasty, bitchy people. I'd just tell him that you heard she was talking about you behind your back and that you don't wish to see her socially. If he doesn't respect that, then he's not the man for you.

Start as you mean to go on and don't compromise yourself to make an impression on him. Let him get to know you as you are.

I commented on your last thread.

In your position I would take the high road and show her how great you both are together. Be prepared she sounds like she might make a few sly digs but just laugh em off.

Have a great night