Not answering the phone?

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Aibu to ask what you would do.

My Mum got rid of the landline so only has one mobile. It's been off for the last two days. She's 73 but lives with my Dad who never has his mobile phone on anyway.

It's possibly she has forgotten to charge it but she is pretty tech minded and usually would have noticed by now.

She has got form for falling out with me and I was no contact for some years when exh was being abusive but not in this way.

I don't know what to do.
I don't want to get a welfare check done if she has just fallen out with me for some unbeknown reason and I don't drive so can't go round.

Any other friends or family nearby who could pop round?
Have you got a number for a neighbour?

Call a neighbour? If you know their surname, look them up with BT to get a number and ask them to pop in (if you're chatty enough with them to call up).

I don't know what to do.
don't want to get a welfare check done if she has just fallen out with me for some unbeknown reason and I don't drive so can't go round.

Surely not??

Can you not get a bus/taxi/train or something and go check?

Why would she have fallen out with you?

A welfare check???

I would get a welfare check tbh.
My gran did not answer her phone for a few days and we had a welfare check done and it was very much worth it because she had fallen and had been unable to get up. Shed been on the floor two days.

Even if it causes a falling out I think its the right thing to do just in case.
Unless you can get round there to do it yourself?
(my gran lived several hours away from us so had to get a police check)

Or do you know any of her neighbours or friends or anyone who lives within walking distance of her who could go and check on them?

I'm hours away Italian.
I'll try to get hold of neighbours and if not I'll get a check.
Something would have had to happen to both of them and they rarely go out together.

In regards to the falling out bit I had a difficult childhood. We all suffer from anxiety as a result of what happened and can clash as a result. She fell out with me once for going to then husband who was abusive when he was kicking off at me and demanding I came home or else rather than go out for a meal with her.
I was scared.

Can you not get public transport?
Can you think of any reason she would have fallen out with you?
You say your dad has a mobile but not that you've tried calling it. That would be the first thing I'd try then I'd go down on public transport.

How many hours away? If it's only 2 or 3 then I'd still go tbh.

Write a letter? Post it now, they'll get it tomorrow. 'Been trying to call you, please give me a ring.'

No I can't think of a reason she has felt out with me but that means nothing... We have a very delicate relationship.

I've messaged a neighbour on social media, only contact I could find. I'm going to get the train down I think if I can get the oldest dc to come round so someone's in for dc3.

Oh well got half way there on the train and she rang me!