To think the postman was out of order

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Knock on the door so answered and it was a postman with a parcel
Had quite a few delivered recently but have not been in which is not an issue as DH works just down the road from the sorting office so have just taken the card
The postman said “for future reference if you are not going to be in don’t have things delivered”
I said “excuse me”
Postman “it’s a waste of my time”
Me “well maybe there should be an option to have things stay at the sorting office until you can get them”
Postman “can’t you have delivered to a neighbour?”
Me “No as the last thing you delivered to a neighbour went missing”
Postman “Of bugger off then and be awkward”
Me “

How very dare postman knock on doors and ring bells and attempt to deliver parcels to MNetters who have far more important things to do than answer the door. hmm
Yep how dare I do the school run or end up in hospital. Or just not wait in for a full 10 days after I have ordered something. bad bad me.

I'm wondering if you live in my area!!! My postman is so rude. He knocks the door so hard its like the door is going to fall in!! Scares the life out of me every time. When I open it he shoves stuff at me, turns around and strides off.. Rushed is an understatement. He doesn't speak and doesn't do eye contact at all.

OP, you can get a sticker for your letterbox that tells the postman to just put a card through the door and take the parcel to the sorting office. We have one of these as we don't want the parcels going to our neighbours. It works. Mostly.

Incidently if I am told something is going to be delivered on a set day by a courier as so many do now I either make sure I am in or let the courier know I won’t be in

You don’t have to justify why you order something. It’s a service they offer, you have paid for the service. If providing the service is a problem for one of their staff, they should get a different job.

You need to report him. It’s rude & intimidating. Other more vulnerable people might be scared of him & might stop ordering things they need delivered.

Plenty of other people to take his job if he doesn’t like it.

I'd definitely be making a complaint. You are annoyed by his attitude. Someone else - perhaps more vulnerable - could have been really, really upset. The Post Office choose the service they prompt. They take the gamble whether you are in. It doesn't waste his time. It's his job for heavens sake. How very rude. For me there may be an excuse but that's for his employer to care about not you. He can use it as mitigation when he is spoken to.

How on earth would you know if you'll be in for a parcel when it could be any time of the day on any day in the next 2-10?? Should everyone sit in their homes all day every day just so they don't miss a bloody parcel? Ridiculous attitude (by the postman and some commenters here)
Definitely report him

why on earth do you keep ordering things when you know you will not be in to receive them?

What a stupid thing to say. Very often you don't get any info about when things are arriving; and even if you do, people have to go out, you know, to work, or pick people up, or shop, or go to the doctor, or other frivolous stuff like that.

Definitely write a complaint, OP. He was rude and unreasonable.

It is his job. Without parcels RM would only be delivering junk mail.

Most other delivery services have options to select if your not going to be in. Royal Mail don't so it's a problem of their own making.

I'd make a complaint about the postman & the way he spoke to you !

YANBU. You know what they say about the kitchen and heat. I'm sure there's some poor soul on the dole who'd happily and professionally do the job.

I’d start doing absolutely all of my shopping online just to piss him off

YANBU

I would make a complaint - it doesn't sound as though its the right job for him. My postman is always smiley - even the DPD driver was okay when he had to come back to get something he'd misdelivered - and my houses isn't easy to deliver to.

Definitely out of order! He has basically suggested (aggressively) that nobody should ever order online unless they stay inside their house 24/7...

By contrast, I love my postie. He only knocks on the door if I have to sign for something, he has learnt that I have 2 doors, and when I'm home I leave the porch door open so he just pops things in the porch for me without knocking and shuts the door again, always friendly, we have a quick chat occasionally. Sometimes he very politely asks me if I can take a neighbours parcel (which I never mind as they often do for me).

I'll make sure he knows how much I appreciate him from now on!

I doubt the mail service has time to ring round all the local hospitals to see if people are in there rather than at home. It's a parcel fgs. Obviously there will be the odd time you're not in and it will either have to be taken back to the sorting office or left with a neighbour. It's not rocket science. Only on MN is it seen as a huge problem.

Ours just leave a card. Don't even try to deliver.

Incidentally, why on earth do you keep ordering things when you know you will not be in to receive them?

If the post office want to lose more business to Amazon Logistics and to courier companies, it's entirely their business.

Their staff might like to ask themselves whether they'd rather tolerate a level of incomplete deliveries, or be on the dole. It's a pretty simple choice, and it's not as though the Royal Mail is enjoying the healthiest of profits.

"DH is ... is a big guy so will let him answer the door and get him to say say “I believe you have an issue that you talked over with my wife? Could you explain it to me please?”
DH would not hurt a fly and is a gentle giant but i recon the postman will be a lot less rude to him."

That's weird. Would you do the same for a rude female postman?

Incidentally, why on earth do you keep ordering things when you know you will not be in to receive them?

LOL ... I swear sometimes that the Post Office sit and wait until they see me go out, then knock and leave a card. I mostly work at home, and I can be here for all bar 10 minutes of an extended working day and THAT will be when the bastards knock.

Rude. Report him.

My postie is great, I have a box by the front door where she leaves parcels, she even signs for me sometimes. Very civilised.

I'd be inclined to report your nasty bastard!

If the orders are from Amazon or similar, I'd suggest you take advantage of the facility where you can ask for thing to be delivered to a designated shop nearby. Ours is the local newsagent, and I find it a really useful service as it means I can collect whenever it's convenient for me.

Some books I ordered to have delivered to my DM should have arrived yesterday. Didn't arrive.

DM just rang, they didn't come today either.

So if I'd had them delivered to home yesterday and taken the day off to wait for them, I'd have been disappointed.

If I'm at home, the postman tries the door, finds it open, and puts any parcels inside on the hall carpet. If I'm not in he goes round the house, up into the back garden and puts the parcel in my shed. He then leaves me a note which he puts through the letterbox saying 'parcel in shed'. He's always jolly and smiling. My 99-year-old neighbour actually gives him any letters she needs posting and he takes them away with him.

Oh god - I've just ordered something from Canada and the confirmation says it will be with me in 1-3 weeks. Do I have to use two weeks of annual leave to make sure I'm in?

God, he sounds like a miserable sod.

Waste of his time? It's literally your job, dude. Suck it up.