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Telling new guy I'm bisexual

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DusktilDawn · 22/03/2018 20:16

I've been dating a guy for 2 months and have yet to sleep with him. I made the mistake of telling him that I'm bisexual and now he keeps mentioning the prospect of a threesome Hmm. Now I'm worried that he's just dating me in the hopes that one day I'm going to introduce him to a friend of mine then we can all go to bed together.

What would you do?

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PlowerOfScotland · 22/03/2018 20:17

Run. He'll fetishise your sexuality.

Dangerousmonkey · 22/03/2018 20:19

Run.

isthismummy · 22/03/2018 20:21

Run in the other direction. A man who starts talking about threesomes as soon as you say you're bi ain't a keeper.

veggiethrower · 22/03/2018 20:21

Run. Sounds horrible.

Rainboho · 22/03/2018 20:22

He is not giving you good signs of accepting you for who you are.

I’m bisexual and DP doesn’t do that - he asks if there is anything he could do to make sure I’m fulfilled. He is the person for me.

AnyFucker · 22/03/2018 20:23

Why are you tolerating that shit ?

isthismummy · 22/03/2018 20:23

For context...my DH is bi and so am I. Neither of us have or would mention a threesome because we are in an exclusive relationship with each other.

PrincessBananaHammok · 22/03/2018 20:24

Definitely run

TheBrilliantMistake · 22/03/2018 20:29

Perhaps he doesn't (yet) grasp that bisexuality doesn't mean you need both sexes to feel fulfilled, only that you're attracted to both, which is really no different than him being attracted to women in general, but wanting a dedicated relationship with you.

He might be under the illusion that you want to see women too, which might just happen to coincide with a fairly common male fantasy.

Explain it to him first, if he still goes on about it, then I agree with the others.

AnyFucker · 22/03/2018 20:31

He sounds a bit thick

Is thst ok with you ?

Fruitcorner123 · 22/03/2018 20:36

Finish it but don't see telling him as a mistake. It's shown you a side of him you nay not have seen for a long while otherwise

bonnyshide · 22/03/2018 20:39

He's done you a massive favour by showing you his true colours...run!

ScattyCharly · 22/03/2018 20:41

Run!

MagneticMan · 22/03/2018 20:43

Get rid of him and don't make the mistake of telling future partners that you're bisexual. It's really not that important for them to know is it?

NotASingleFuckToGive · 22/03/2018 20:56

Get rid of him and don't make the mistake of telling future partners that you're bisexual. It's really not that important for them to know is it?

Call me old fashioned, but I think it'd be pretty damn high on my list of important things to know about the person I'm in a relationship with! Confused

Americantan · 22/03/2018 21:00

Do what I didn’t have the sense to do. Bin him. Eventually I did Smile

SparklyLeprechaun · 22/03/2018 21:03

Call me old fashioned, but I think it'd be pretty damn high on my list of important things to know about the person I'm in a relationship with!

Really? Why? A relationship is meant to be exclusive, otherwise it's a joke. If my bf cheated on me I don't think the sex of the other person would be the important thing for me.

SparklyLeprechaun · 22/03/2018 21:04

Op, dump him, he's a weirdo. Unless you want a threesome.

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DusktilDawn · 22/03/2018 21:06

Things were going so well.. but I'm glad he's shown his true colours. He's older than me so I assumed he would be mature about it clearly not!

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RedForFilth · 22/03/2018 21:06

Sack him off. I'm also bi and get rid of any man who has said this. I say any man as none of the women I've been seeing have ever said this.

LanguidLobster · 22/03/2018 21:07

No, just get out.

MagneticMan · 22/03/2018 21:09

Why would it be important to you @NoSingleFuckToGive ? Is it because you think they are more likely to have picked up an STD?

@SparklyLeprechaun summed it up - if it's an exclusive relationship (and you trust them) then it shouldn't matter if they are bi.

VioletteValentia · 22/03/2018 21:20

Idiot. I’m bisexual and that would piss me off. DP doesn’t do it, he’s made the joke before but from what you’ve said he won’t shut up!

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