Aghgh hate flaky friends, who arrange to meet and don't turn up.

[Aeroflotgirl]

What is it with people, you make arrangements to meet at a certain time and date, you message beforehand to confirm, nothing nada. This has happened 3 times in a month with 3 different friends. Its just so rude not to reply to messages asking to confirm, and not show up on agreed time and date. Even if they could not make it, message me to let me know. With one friend, she said she will come at a certain time and day and date, and nothing. Few days later I bumped into her, and told me she totally forgot.

You poor thing, that is really rude and inconsiderate of them!

I am sure it isn't you. You sound absolutely lovely, the kind of friend anyone would love to be able to rely on.

Eugh seriously avoid. The best words of wisdom I've learnt is " don't make others a priority when they only see you as an option. "

I had this with one girl who stood me up twice. The first time she just didn't turn up. I let it go.The second time, we were supposed to meet up before Christmas and confirmed the day before. No message. Then later on in the day she posted pictures of a night out with other friends. So clearly not too busy for them.

My ex best friend turned up an hour and a half late.

Don't settle.

I can honestly say that never happens, that's so rude

I have one friend in my BFF circle group who is renowned for the last minute cancel. Text an hour before we're supposed to meet - her boiler's broken and she needs to wait in. She's used this excuse 3 times now, either knowingly or unknowlingly, and my other mate texted back the final time and said "Sounds like the 'boiler' needs replacing".

And the worst of it is, we know she's not got a better offer with a George Clooney lookalike or anything, she just can't be arsed to come out. Makes you feel really valued as a friend .... NOT.

Just checking that other messages sent to those particular friends have been received?

Not sure why but if I text my SIL and two particular friends, they often never get it, and never if an image is attached. This only came to light when DS was born and they were cross with me for not sending a picture (which I had).

I hate this and have had this. I stop making the effort and don't initiate contact.

If they are not letting you know even then you should ditch them. Thats really rude, they could just ring or send a message saying that cant meet for whatever reason.
If someone did that to me unless it was a dire emergency like someone had died I'd never bother again with them making plans.

That's really shitty of your friends and there's no excuse really to not let you know that they can't make it.

I've had to let friends down tons over the last few years and at the last moment but I always let them know,I'd never let them turn up somewhere to see me knowing I couldn't make it.

My friends I know are disapointed when I can't make it and so am I but they've been brilliant about it but that's because they know there's a genuine reason(I nearly died 10 years ago and I became disabled and seriously ill 9 years ago because of that)and I'm not being flaky,it says alot more about them than it does you though Aeroflotgirl they must really be up they're own arseholes if they think that's acceptable behaviour,believe me it might not be for a few years to come but they're going to turn around one day and realize just how many good people they've lost from they're lifes because of that behaviour.

Don't ever forget that well known saying "IT'S NOT THE QUANTITY OF FRIENDS THAT MATTER IT'S THE QUALITY" I've found that to be very true.

Awww thanks so much pig, I try my best😁😁

I don't mind people cancelling, but please reply to my messages, and let me know. Wow some seriously flaky people out there. WhTs wrong with people.

Ughh so annoying...and rude. My friend did this a few times. I decided to let her take the lead after that and make plans. Never saw her again. Weirdly she is the first xmas card i receive each year. 14 yrs on