AIBU to think I should still go to work meal

[Peachyfizz]

I'm a single mum so dont go out that often. My work are having a meal tomorrow for team bonding. I work 2 days a week so it's hard to feel part of the team sometimes anyway. Last minute I've been able to get a babysitter for my son and can go have the meal and I'll be driving.

Anyway this weel I've logged a harassment case against a work colleague. He hasn't been told yet because I've just spoken with my manager and not HR yet. My work friend text me to warn me that he will be there. I said I weren't sure if I should come then. She said it shouldn't stop you being social and you don't have to go near him. My manager will be there that also knows about this. No one else knows. AIBU to think I shouldn't let this idiot get in the way of my life and to avoid him at the meal. There's about 25 people going. Bit torn if I should go or not. But then I haven't done nothing wrong and I can't stop completely going out with work friends can I?

Go of course and enjoy yourself!

If there’s 25 people going it should be perfectly possible to more-or-less stay away from him anyway. Just sit the other end of the table with whoever your friends are and have a lovely evening

I never go to these things as I despise most of my colleagues - do you get on with most of them? I think that's the key. Do you want to go?

If there were 4 people going I’d be inclined to say don’t go because why open yourself to further harassment.

But 25? Should be perfectly possible to avoid him, just make sure to sit at the other end of the table and make sure you aren’t alone at any point.

Of course you shouldn’t have to take any of these things into consideration and I’m sorry that you do.

Thanks yes I'm friendly with my work colleagues and like going to these types of things with them. It's nice to get out since I don't too often.
A couple of people there know so if I feel uncomfortable I can always say something to them and I will definitely not be left alone with him.
He has spiked my drink with extra Alcohol in the past so will not be leaving drinks around either!
I'm so angry that he has put me into this position.

Definitely go if you're sure there's enough people to create distance between you

It's a free meal too!! 😁 so it's not fair for me to be the only one missing out due to his actions!

I'd go - but please don’t avail yourself of the free bar and tell him what a twat is ! That really won’t go down well with any proceedings that may follow.

Peachyfizz - you posted about him last week didn't you?

I'm glad you put in a grievance. I'm sure your manager and friend/s can look after you and keep a barrier if he comes your way.

holly I'm not drinking and I wouldn't do a thing like that to put my claim in jeopardy.

Yes that was me TER I'm glad too. Had some good advice on my thread so thank you. I finally plucked the courage up to do something about it!

Go Go Go Go

Why should you miss out, 'cause hes a dick?

Think I'm going to go 😊 even treated myself to some new earrings!