To be shocked at this?

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AIBU to be shocked?

Went on a Tinder date with a guy a few months ago, and have just found out that he and some of his friends have been jailed for drugs offences.

He’s been given a sentence of over 20 years, so it looks like he’ll be over 50 when he comes out of prison if he serves his full sentence.

It’s not really any of my business at all, especially considering I only met him once, but it just shocked me.

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Would having a serious crime on his criminal record prevent him from getting a good job? I’m sure he’d be after a top job, but obviously that might be closed-off and off-limits to him now.

I don't know about getting a good job - he will be lucky to get a job washing up in McDonalds when he gets out I reckon.

What a shock for you.
Did he seem to have a lavish lifestyle from what he said to you?

Not at all, CircleSquare. He seemed very modest and ‘normal’. I suppose he wanted to keep it all under wraps, though. He kept on telling me about his flatmate and mentioning that the flatmate took a lot of drugs, but he never mentioned taking drugs himself. I wonder if that was a way of telling me that he also took drugs?

20 years for drugs offences?? Murderers get less!

And these people will have caused a number of deaths.

They didn't get 20 years though. One of them got 15 and the rest got 12/11/7. So even the longest sentenced guy will be out in 7.5 years.

"The judge said use of the dark web was an aggravating factor" – makes no sense and shows the general ignorance and hyperbole surrounding the "dark web". Why should it be an aggravating factor? What difference does it make whether they sold drugs online or met their clients in an alleyway after being beeped on their pager?

Am I right in thinking that you dated him after his conviction, while he was awaiting sentence? (I got that from what you said about googling him, but maybe I read that wrong?) Or had he not even been arrested yet?

NB - YADNBU to be shocked!

Yep, Toomanyweeds. I met him, and then Googled him and found something on an anonymous Internet forum where it said that he and his friends had been charged with drugs offences. So I decided not to meet up with him again

I think this means that he’d already been arrested by the time I met him (is that right? Please correct me if I’m wrong!) But he was still allowed at this point to live a pretty normal life, it seems. He lived at home, held down a job and was pretty much free to do what he wanted.

Lucky escape