So my best friend and godmother to dd has a bit of a fixation with a guy she works with. It really frustrstes me because I know how hurt she's getting but like a dog with a bone she just won't let him go and it's been happening for around two years now.
I'll stick by her and offer her advice anytime. I mean, my life is a train wreck but I'll always try and help her and comfort her.
So recently, I've noticed a change in our friendship. If ever I arrange to see her, she either doesn't turn up or cancels last minute. It's been 5 times I've arranged to see her and she has opted out.
I used to message her all the time especially when a close family member of hers passed but all she talks about is this guy from work and its really getting to me now.
DP's friend became my friend and he's besotted with her. He has autism and his social anxiety is terrible. She made up a huge fuss last week about getting to know him etc only for her to tell him she wasn't actually interested but was using him as a jealousy tactic. I was too angry with her by this point to talk to her. She crushed his feelings and I see him like a brother to me. So if she asks for contact with him again I'll tell her to back off.
I've noticed she only talks to me now to talk about this guy and send me screenshots of their conversations etc and I'm starting to see who she really is.
What would you say? Would it be unreasonable for me to tell her that it's pissing me off an I long for our friendship back rather than me be an agony aunt or just let her get on with it?