family secret

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Not sure how many people have seen my recent posts...
exP has admitted assault on me in court, now has a restraining order in place.

I have spoken to the police today to clarify indirect contact as he has asked friends to tell our 2 year old DS 'Daddys coming'. He also took his passport and has this week logged onto the childminding site for the very first time. I have today cancelled the passport. As he didn't tell me friend to tell me to tell our son it doesn't count as a breach...but put me on edge all night looking out of the window at every sound. Anyway...

He has also posted on Facebook that he is going to 'tell my family secrets' and see what I say to that - again not directly to me. He is being crafty. I have blocked him from everything.

I haven't told anyone else about something I was told a few years ago regarding a family member. Do I tell my family now? Before it comes out online? Or do I not and hope he doesn't do this? People close to me will be affected.

Let him say it. Then if any family members ask you tell them he’s a liar and being vindictive trying to continue his harassment of you.

Keep going to the police each time he breaches the restraining order.

Ok then, I agree with Fuzzywuzzy, just keep quiet, and if asked simply deny it. Would anyone be likely to ask the family member?

Thanks all for the advice. I just want him to go away and leave us alone! Why is that too much to ask?

Help do keep phoning the police when he does things, I know it’s tedious but eventually he will slip up.

I would just pretend you didn’t see the message on Fb, he’s the one that will look stupid if he tells the secret, who will beleive him anyway, he’s been done for assault so obviously isn’t the most trustworthy person.

My ex did exactly the same with trying to contact me through other people, I even received emails from him pretending to be someone else (his friend), telling me what a bitch I was for getting him arrested for rape and ruining his life. I forwarded the emails to the police and they took it very seriously.

Then essentially he has nothing on you. The only mileage is in holding a "family secret" over your head. Just ignore, let him make himself look pathetic.

He's a real sad fucker isn't he?

What does he think he looks like doing this. Everyone who knows him must be just shaking his head at his stupidity now

Keep reporting and keep safe OP

If this is information he was given then honestly leave it. It's not your responsibility that he's a horrid and dangerous person.
As for the messages for the son/ threats/ turning up, keep a log pass this to the police/ solicitor/ court. He clearly is looking for ways to flout the law.

I would just say it’s a lie. If it’s an old thing he is unlikely to have any proof.