To whine and whinge on here about having bronchitis/sinusitis, being on antibiotics and feeling crap, because IRL DS's best friend mom has cancer and has started chemo, so I can't complain

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I feel gross , but obviously cannot say anything in IRL with this recent diagnosis of DS's best friend mom. She just started chemo last week :( She said the after effects were like being hit by a truck. To say we were shocked by this development is an understatement- she is leading the paradigm of a healthy upper-middle class life

The other wholly selfish bad aspect of this is in ordinary circumstances, I would milk the fuck out of my bronchitis to get out of driving kids/having them over at my place duty. Now of course I can't do that either.
ughhghghghghghghghghg

Eh?
You can be childish and ‘milk the fuck’ out of your being ill and refusing to drive the kids to school because someone you know has cancer?

*cant

There's something rather distasteful about this post.

Ah man I probably wouldn't have posted this OP. It doesn't come across very well.

I do hope your friend is ok and resting and I hope you're infection clears up.

I know it's distasteful! That's why I'm complaining on here! irl, I am on my best behaviour.

All I’m going to say is that cancer doesn’t discriminate!

I know right? It's awful, and so, so scary.

I have cancer and I'm on antibiotics for a nasty ear infection. Do I get extra points?

If you're not well enough to drive to school etc then that doesn't change just because someone else has cancer. Is there nobody else who can help you both with the kids while you're poorly?

I hope you feel better soon and that her treatment goes well

@WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo
I believe you do qualify for extras!

Thanks for the kind wishes. We're both single parents- I'm a lone parent (so i get extra points on that account lol) so we usually manage the comings and goings of the two boys ourselves. When their son is with his dad, he is really good about taking turns to drive / host them .
Just wanna complain, really.

You sound like an infantile moron.

“I know, right.”

@WhoUpsetTheEquilibrium
yeah, and you sound like vicious, pathetic excuse of a human being.

Actually, that did feel good.

You started off by setting the wrong tone. Don't attack other posters for clearly seeing how ridiculous this thread is.

I get what you mean, but you didn't half put it badly, OP!

I'm feeling v sorry for myself too, because I'm 38 weeks pregnant, trying to get everything sorted before mat leave, and suffering the heaviest cold I've ever had with no soothing medication along with a touch of SPD, dizziness, worrying about movements due to anterior placenta, gestational diabetes and hip pain at night that wakes me on the hour. My throat hurts, my ear is deaf apart from tinnitus, I'm blowing out what looks like green and brown concrete from my nose, and I can't stop coughing - which hurts my throat and head even more. And it's been like this for TEN sodding days.

But I can't complain too much because I am over the moon to be 38 weeks pregnant and so many people have so many worse things going on.

That's the sort of spirit you were going for, right?

I understand where you are coming from OP. I lost my best friend to cancer a couple of weeks ago and i felt the same when i was around her, that i couldnt complain about normal shit because everything in her life was so far from normal and you feel like you are minimising that.

I know my friend wanted everyone to carry on as much as normal as they could though and actually liked listening to my mundane moans in the end as it made everything feel more normal if that makes sense.

Hope you feel better soon OP and dont feel like a dick for moaning because other people are rude.

In the spirit of competitive ill health complaining, I too am limited irl.

Dsis is having a torrid time with her dh and her own health, my parents are naturally worried about her. All of which means I can't say anything to them about the MRI scan I had at the weekend and waiting for an appointment with the neurologist since Jan for what the GP suspects might be ms.

I have several lovely close friends but they live miles away and one of them just cancelled today's lunch date, so I'm still not able to vent! Dh is being great, but he's been able to talk to his own parents about it.

Little - fingers crossed for you when you get to see someone 🤞🏻

Little how worrying for you. I hope that you get good news from your MRI. Would your parents not want to know though?

I can only speak for myself, obviously, but I actually feel sad when my friends don't share their worries with me, because they've decided mine are worse. Firstly on a day to day level having cancer is more of a nuisance than anything. I don't sit around weeping and wailing, and I'm fully able to appreciate that other people have shit things happening to them too. Also I am still me. I still want to support my friends. I want it to be a two way relationship. If anything I feel that I should be providing more support because in a few years I won't be here and so I need to cram in as much being-a-friend as possible now! :)

It's tricky in your specific situation OP as obviously you'd each rely on the other one to help when you are unwell so it probably is a case of grinning and bearing it as best you can. How old are the children? Hopefully old enough that they can fend for themselves a bit while you try and rest it sounds like a really great arrangement for you both

Ian that sounds utterly exhausting! I hope your symptoms ease up soon

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo, that made me cry

Thanks Leslie.

You sound absolutely awesome and I am duly awed.

Thanks IanRushesInadequateFlushes. Just chased neurology and it seems that despite having had the MRI I won't get an appointment to discuss the results until May.

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo you sound lovely and your friends are very lucky to have you.

I know my parents would want to know and I'm very close to them and ordinarily wouldnt hesitate. It's just they're so worried about dsis (my mum sounds so down every time I speak to her) that every conversation is about her and I can't find an opportune moment.

No need for that :) I'm just a normal person. I'd hate to think my friends felt they couldn't share things with me though. (Unless it is something really petty, then I reserve the right to roll my eyes a bit... )

Little May?! Any chance your GP can chase up or at least give you an idea of the results? I hope you get a chance to speak to your mum soon

I seem to be caught in a loop between the neurology department and GP, with each of them saying I need to speak to the other. Neurology say that the neurologist would rather I wait for an appointment to discuss the results, but then told me that the GP will have access to the results so I could make an appointment in the hope they might discuss the results with me if I'm anxious. The GP says no, the neurologist has to instigate it (which he won't do).

I've had some weird visual problems which I gather can be common in those with ms. So I've now got an eye test next Tuesday which might give me more clues.

It's all very frustrating being in limbo like this, but my dc are keeping me sane and happy and keeping me on my toes. I'm focussing on the rest of what's happening in my life, which is mostly very positive (fabulous dh and dc, who are healthy and happy). It also puts things in perspective that I found out yesterday that my friend's little boy (same age as my dd) is currently in hospital fighting bacterial meningitis (a strain they don't vaccinate against) . I can cope with anything, providing my dc are healthy.