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To think he should ask?

20 replies

Glitterfume · 21/03/2018 12:14

I live next door to a shop which closes for lunch. I have never noticed the sign before but apparently each lunch when he goes out he is leaving a sign on his door saying deliveries next door.

This is stock for a food store and newsagents type place so not little stuff and will be in boxes.

I only found out as today the owner has tracked me on social media to ask if I have his parcel which courier has said they have delivered. I don't.

A) I work from home but don't want to be disturbed with the door going all the time with parcels without being asked.

B) Due to a silly set up my living room is on the first floor and we have just had the door replaced so no bell at the moment so I can't hear.

C) I suffer from anxiety and am stressed enough as it is without worrying that I'm being told I have parcels I don't have.

Aibu to think it's a bit cheeky without asking?

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MarklahMarklah · 21/03/2018 12:17

Yes he should have asked. Just tell him it isn't convenient/doesn't work for you and that he'll need to make alternative arrangements. And remind him that he should have asked first!

Buster72 · 21/03/2018 12:17

No.

Doofenschmirtz · 21/03/2018 12:20

It's cheeky to arrange it without asking first.

Taking in parcels for other people really only works if there's a reciprocal arrangement. I take them for my neighbours but they also do the same for me.

Unless the shop owner already takes deliveries for you, they have no right to assume that you will do this for them.

bakingdemon · 21/03/2018 12:23

Taking in the occasional parcel for a residential neighbour is quite different to taking in deliveries for a commercial enterprise. Tell him you can't accept them and refuse to accept any more deliveries that aren't addressed to you. And if you can't hear the door, so much the better!

Trinity66 · 21/03/2018 12:23

Of course he should have asked first, YANBU

MyBrilliantDisguise · 21/03/2018 12:25

So his "next door" is you and he hasn't even asked you?

No way!

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 21/03/2018 12:32

I have this. My neighbours never ever answer their door, even when I know they are in. They have a sign in the door telling people to leave deliveries with me and I door because I feel sorry for the couriers, many of whom are regular.

The problem is then getting the parcel to my neighbour, they are left a card but never collect them and don’t answer the door to me either. I end up having to leg it outside when I see them pull up in the car.

And of course they never take my parcels in!

frankchickens · 21/03/2018 12:35

YANBU it is massively cheeky of him to do this without even asking.

letsdolunch321 · 21/03/2018 12:35

Cheeky sod assuming it was ok!!!

lorelairoryemily · 21/03/2018 12:36

He should have asked. I have my own salon and a client of mind tells the courier to just drop her packages hereHmm she has never asked me!

sundowners · 21/03/2018 12:37

Beyond rude- Id be fuming and let him know it was completely unacceptable to have put that on a sign without consulting you (and thanking you massively!) and you wont be on it anymore. His is a business, you are privately living in your home, unless he offers some form of reimbursement/ say £10 weekly-credit at hi store as thanks- why on earth would he expect anyone be willing to do this?!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 21/03/2018 12:43

Just tell him that to make other arrangements as you have no doorbell at the moment. Yes, he is being a CF!

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Glitterfume · 21/03/2018 12:49

Thank you. First I knew of it was when he messaged me on Facebook to thank me for taking his parcel in. When I said I hadn't got it he said oh well I put an arrow on it to say bring it to you.

If he had asked I would have probably said yes of course as a one off. Now I won't help at all!

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expatinscotland · 21/03/2018 12:50

He's a CF. He tracked you down on social media? What a twat. Message him back, 'I am not your secretary nor a courier drop. I will NOT take any more deliveries for your commercial enterprise.' Put a sign on your door, too.

He's a bullying twat, so stick to messaging on social media or text and let him know you are keeping a record of all of them.

If he bothers you about taking the packages, tell him to stop harassing you or you're going to the police.

expatinscotland · 21/03/2018 12:52

'Now I won't help at all!'

Definitely don't even start. He'll waste your time, accuse you of taking them, blah blah blah. He needs to make other arrangements for his business or stay in if he's expecting a parcel. You're not his gopher or his employee.

NorthEndGal · 21/03/2018 12:53

I'd would drop him a note saying that you are not available for taking in packages, so please don't have them delivered or left at yours.
If it continues, just keep the deliveries

Annechristmas · 21/03/2018 14:33

I'd just put a note on your door saying only deliveries for here.

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Glitterfume · 21/03/2018 15:17

Thanks all.
They have found the missing parcels but not after kicking my anxiety off that i was going to get blamed if they couldn't find them.
I appreciate that's me being stupid but I'm not well at the moment!

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GrannyGrissle · 21/03/2018 15:50

Just write 'DO NOT' over his 'please' resulting in DO NOT leave deliveries here? Grin

movpov · 21/03/2018 16:34

If he regularly gets deliveries at lunchtime he needs to stop closing at lunchtime. Not your responsibility

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