To want my mom to stop talking about death?

[VioletteValentia]

My mum is 54. Every time I see my mom, I get

“we are getting old and going to die soon”

“Your dad and I probably have 10 years left”

“There’s so much we want to do but we don’t have time”

“Everyone else does x but we will die first”

This is usually in response to me asking her to help me with my paperwork. I have ADD but I’m not formally diagnosed, it was said when I had my autism assessment as a teenager that I very clearly have it, but nothing was done so I can’t get medication. Therefore, she helps me organise stuff because I’m bad at it.

I’m tempted to just not bother anymore, because I hate this morbid conversation and the implication I’m a burden. AIBU?

Can we link our mums up so they can speak about death freely?? My mum phones me Every time she visits my nan to tell me she's looking ill and doesn't have long left. Mothers day my mum told me she's doing something extra special for my nan as it's her last one. The same for Christmas. My nan doesn't have a terminal illness... she's just old and worn! A good few years ago she said the same about my grandad so one Christmas I asked my grandad to pose for a photo. When he asked why I told him that mum keeps insisting it's his last Christmas as he is going to die soon. She was mortified! Grandad went on to see another 3 Christmas's!

I'm dreading the age where I become focused on death!