AIBU not to want them to take him again?

[lizzyfrombedlam]

I try to be brief, but really need to know if IABU about this. I have two children, DC1 is a tween and DC2 is 18m.

Our CM takes term-time holidays. We knew this when we signed up and for the most part their holidays coincide with ours, so not an issue. Last year there was a period of time where their holiday didn't, so my ILs kindly offered to take my toddler for the week. They live a few hours away, so we didn't see our DC2, who was about 13m at the time, for the entire week. DC1 is old enough to walk home alone, so didn't need any childcare. I hated every second of it - not because I don't trust the ILs (they are wonderful), but because of the distance from my DC, who I thought was simply too young to be away from us at the time.

Our CM will have another holiday shortly and our ILs will be taking DC2 again for that time period (DC1 is at school again).

Now the summer holidays are being discussed and the ILs will be taking DC1 away for about 10 days. It's been a long-standing arrangement that they do this once a year for all their grandchildren; they're usually going on a holiday abroad for that time period, but haven't specified for this year.

They have asked whether they can take both DC. I am resolutely against this. Even if they didn't take them abroad this year, I hate the thought of having to let go of DC2 again so soon and without any necessity to do so as both DH and I will be at home.

DH thinks IABU as we barely spend any time alone and he wants to reconnect as a couple. I acknowledge things haven't been easy lately, but still think DC2 will be far too young to be away again.

So AIBU?

From the age of 7 I used to stay with my grandparents for a week in the summer, then DSis would go the following week 😁I didn't miss my parents at all.

I can see that opinions are quite divided on this. Thank you again for your responses.

In terms of spending time together, the other grandchildren (DC1 included) are a fair bit older than my DC2. They aren't all taken on holiday together, either, so it's not like my DC2 would be left out. In fact, they get more alone-time with the ILs than DC1.

I don't know. DH hasn't passed my proposal on to the ILs yet, so if he does, we'll see what comes of it.

Reading through all your posts I think it's you who doesn't want this rather than it being bad for your DC in some way.
Your son has spent enough time with the GP's to know them and be comfortable with them. Your DD will probably be OK too- mine get along fine when away from us, they save all that stuff for when we are with them.
If you prefer not to do it then you can say it politely. You can always suggest that they have both kids another time but for a shorter period that you are more comfortable with.
I don't think it's unreasonable for your husband to want to spend some time with you so you shouldn't be cross with him.
YANBU, but you should be honest about why you don't want your DS to go. He would be fine but you would struggle with it and there's nothing wrong with that.
It's good that you have a good relationship with your in laws and I am sure given that you will be able to have a reasonable conversation with them about this which I would start with "Thanks for the kind offer"