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DP snores like a damn bear...

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Backscratchesforever · 21/03/2018 01:49

AIBU to expect my dp to go to the doctors and ask for something, anything to reduce his snoring?

His snore is ridiculously loud, so much so the last year we’ve rarely slept in the same bed. It wasn’t this bad 18 months ago! We have tried everything on the market, I’ve tried ear plugs and a pillow that plays music to drown him out

I believe it’s his adenoids, he doesn’t seem to grasp the loudness of it. Or at least whenever I bring it up he laughs and says it is my sensitive hearing. Twat.

I’m in our room, he is in the spare room; both doors shut and a bathroom between us and I can still fucking hear him loudly!

Aibu to expect him to sort out this problem, even if I am I feel like I’m on the brink of divorce.

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GotBunsHun · 21/03/2018 01:54

Has he tried sleeping between two pillows so that he's forced to sleep on his side? Snoring tends to be from sleeping on your back

GotBunsHun · 21/03/2018 01:56

Also, YANBU, record him so he can appreciate how loud it is and if he's sleeping in another room he should want to sort it out anyway for the sake of your marriage

HateTheDF · 21/03/2018 01:59

YANBU my DP is the same, I swear our flat rattles sometimes. He doesn't realise how loud his is either and doesn't believe it is serious enough to see a doctor. Spare rooms it is for us until he sorts it

MrsDilber · 21/03/2018 02:02

My DP is the same. Google sleeping headphones, I have mine on an extended cord to the TV, or my iPad. Play soothing music on YouTube, blocks him out. Honestly, they've been a game changer. Only about a fiver.

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Backscratchesforever · 21/03/2018 02:12

I have recorded him, a lot! He says “it’s not even loud” Sad Angry

I’ve just brought a noise meter on amazon so I can prove it.

I could go in there now and kick him in the throat!

He snores on his sides, front and back. And I smack in the ribs stops him for a bout two secs before it starts again. He can fall asleep literally in under 1 min, me... not so much!

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GotBunsHun · 21/03/2018 02:15

Hahaha Grin I'm sorry to laugh OP, I have similar violent thoughts and even pinch his nose so he snorts and wakes up a bit and gives me a rest but he's also back asleep again in 5 mins tops Grin

GotBunsHun · 21/03/2018 02:18

Serious note though - if it affected me that much and forced us to sleep in seperate beds I'd be very upset if he was making a joke out of it and not seriously trying to do something about it! You could end up sleeping in seperate rooms for years if not your whole life if nothing is done, and it's affecting your sleep and wellbeing! I think a serious chat is needed

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Backscratchesforever · 21/03/2018 02:21

You have to laugh in between crying

But if you see a few children with their Dailyfail sad faces on and a headline “wife kills snoring selfish bear impressionist” you know I could no longer contain the rage.

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Backscratchesforever · 21/03/2018 02:25

I’ve just sent him this text

“I can not sleep due to YOUR FUCKING SNORING FROM IN HERE. Doctor TODAY OR YOU ARE HOMELESS TONIGHT”

Hoping waking up to that delight will tell him I’m serious, on top of my new purchase. I might even print off a divorce petition.. are they online?

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GotBunsHun · 21/03/2018 02:43

I approve 1000% and the internet is a boundless place of wonder and don't doubt that you can.
Revenge plan: 1. Record snoring

  1. Hide recorder in spare room
  2. Play snoring on continuous loop
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Backscratchesforever · 21/03/2018 02:47

Yeeeeeess GotBunsHun I love that idea!!!! I’ll torment him back! Love it Wine

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 21/03/2018 04:48

The only think that works for me with DH is to use wax ear plugs and block my own ears by sniffing if that makes sense.

fopper · 21/03/2018 13:05

I could have written your post. I am at the depths of despair due to DH's snoring. I recorded it the other night and sent it to him.

To his credit, he did go to the doctor several years ago. They referred him to a hospital and he got given this machine to wear for one night so that they could monitor his snoring. Unfortunately, on that night he didn't snore at all, so in his eyes, there is no problem.

He doesn't snore every single night but it's probably about 60% of the time and it's driving me crazy. If he's not actually snoring, I quite often cannot get to sleep because I am worrying about him starting to snore. Very often, his snoring wakes me up and then it is hours before I can get back to sleep again. Averaging 4-5 hours sleep for this week - the snoring has been horrendous.

Sorry I don't have any advice but you are definitely not alone. I resent slightly the fact that I have to wear earplugs, or I have to look for solutions, to a problem that isn't actually caused by me.

FizzyGreenWater · 21/03/2018 13:15

Quite seriously, book yourself into a hotel tonight. Nearest Travelodge, doesn't need to be pricey:

a. if you are sleep deprived one good night will help a lot - you clearly need it and

b. you really need to show him that this isn't in the slightest bit funnny and is really affecting your health and happiness. Just say quite straight faced - no, I am going to have to spend a night elsewhere. I can't cope on no sleep - no one can, and you can be heard all through the house. Doesn't matter if it's 'just my sensitive hearing' - you're with ME, so that's that. You can do the school run/getting ready tomorrow, I won't be here...'

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