To think this is a bit rough?

[MrsMaxwell]

DS1 did his Silver D of E practise this weekend in the snow etc.

I am quite proud of him doing this as his has high functioning ASD but I have always treated him like my other kids and had the same expectations of him and he has always accepted this and actually coped well with most things. I am not really inviting opinions on that I just don’t want to drip feed.

He was responsible for bringing the tent home and washing it. He was at his dads sat night (his dad collected him with said tent and washed his clothes so he’s not a twat) and when DS got home last night our outside tap was frozen and he couldn’t wash the tent off (we have a tiny patio garden).

The tent has to be back today.

I told DS I would email the teacher and explain and it would be brought back tomoz, he didn’t want me to but took the tent back today unwashed (as in his literal thinking the tent needed to ba back today - whatever - but I don’t think DS explained about the tap).

He had to take his backpack back this morning and he gets the bus (another massive achievement in yr 11) and I was starting a new job so could not give him a lift.

Anyway he had got in the shit for the tent, his whole group have had to take their backpacks back home tonight and have to take them back again tomorrow when DS needs to produce the clean dry tent.

He has hoses it down and it’s currently spread out drying over our dining room table as he hung it on the line and it froze.

AIBU to think this is a little bit fucking unfair?

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People wash tents?

I think the teacher is being very unreasonable - it's not the sort of weather in which you can wash and hang things out to dry. However, I understand the ASD coming into play here with the need to get the task completed. This is something you may need to address with your DS that sometimes what people say and want is just not possible. I say this as a dear friend of mine has recently been supporting her 22 year old ASD son who was sacked from his job after getting points on his driving license. He got points on his license because his boss asked him to deliver something (from one end of the country, pretty much to the other) within a rigid timeframe. He'd checked the route, and planned it all accurately but diversions meant he was behind schedule. His boss told him to 'put your foot down then' on the motorway, so, being ASD and a people-pleaser, he did. And got caught speeding.
He said he knew he shouldn't have been speeding, but he wanted to keep his job, and he had to get the delivery by X time, so what else could he do?

There was D of E party at school which is DS worst nightmare but he and “best friend” (they go to comic com things together all over) felt bad for the organiser as no one was going (empathy - fab).

Friend lived miles away from school and needed to get changed after school for the party. We live way closer. DS told friend “you can come to my house but you cannot come into my bedroom” (he openly told me this) and made friend change in the bathroom and stand outside his room while he changed.

Luckily I arrived during this moment of awkwardness and have them a lift to the party.

I know - he really really struggles with breaking rules - although he cheats at Monopoly when he is the banker and always wins Cards Against Humanity (I know he shouldn’t play but he really really interacts with it).

What on earth? It took us about 4 days to get our tent properly dry after our last camping trip and that was in blummin' August! (It kept raining. I have never considered putting a dripping tent in the dining room, any more than I have considered cleaning my kitchen with a garden hose.) Totally unreasonable expectation.

I only hope your DS has interpreted it too literally. If he is to be "punished" for this, it's not a question of asking for special treatment, just a not insane demand!

I have never even heard of washing a tent? Aren't they pretty much self cleaning? Unless it was covered in cow pats or something that is really bizarre.