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Bragging about sex life....

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LittleMissUnreasonable · 19/03/2018 19:09

Me and DPs sex life isn't currently fantastic... it's good most of time but we're both getting accustomed to each other as we have both had very limited sexual partners and I'm having a contraception review as my current method is not suiting.

My close friend has recently started bragging how many times her and her DP and her have had sex that week/fortnight. For the first few times I let it go but recently it's been making me feel inadequate in my relationhip so I gave her an overview of some of the issues with me and DP,hoping that would make her bit tactful. She didn't mention it for a few weeks then it went back to "the amount of times we had sex was in multiple figures this weekend" and "we had sex 5 times this week", "we had amazing sex last week....im so tired"

Now I know people are more than entitled to talk about it and I don't mind as I have some very close friendships but am I being unreasonable in thinking it's a little tiring hearing about this now...

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DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 19/03/2018 19:10

Is she 16 and recently had her first time?! Because that was the only time I ever had conversations like that!

Honestly I’d just give her a sideways look if she won’t stop banging on.

Teachtolive · 19/03/2018 19:11

Why not just say it to her outright "I really don't want to know how often you have sex." You don't need to explain yourself. I'd be quite freaked out if I thought my DH was boasting about how often we slept together. What is she, 19??

ChodeofChodeHall · 19/03/2018 19:11

Very strange behaviour. I wonder what's really going on there...

Okaynowimconfused · 19/03/2018 19:12

My friend often mentions what a "session" her and DP had the night before etc and I literally say "thanks for that image". Don't entertain her. One word response. Change the subject.

And absolutely do not compare it to your own relationship. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors.

PoptartPoptart · 19/03/2018 19:13

No one can MAKE you feel inadequate op. People say all sorts of things and it’s up to you how you respond/choose to feel about it.
I would just smile, nod and say ‘that’s nice’ then change the subject.
Sex is not a competition.

mimibunz · 19/03/2018 19:14

I hate it when people talk about their sex lives. Just do it and shut up about it. She sounds v immature.

iLoveABiccy · 20/03/2018 07:40

She sounds immature to be honest with you, just ignore the comments & change topic.

Lottapianos · 20/03/2018 07:43

Hmm. Sounds like it's not actually you that she is trying to convince. If you genuinely do have a good sex life, then you tend to just get on with it and not feel the need to broadcast the details to others. Sounds like a load of hype to me

iklboo · 20/03/2018 07:47

As my grandad used to say 'them that talk about it that much aren't really doing it that much'.

flapjackfairy · 20/03/2018 07:48

My mother maintains that people who brag about it the most actually do it the least.
I am sure that is not a scientific conclusion but console yourself with the thought anyway !

iklboo · 20/03/2018 07:49

Or you could say 'it's a bit grim giving your vibrator a name....' while carrying on with your work.

EnglishRose13 · 20/03/2018 07:51

A woman at work does it. Comments such as "I have more sex than all of you put together" are common.

They're also having couples counselling as he's a violent prick that calls her names such as cunt in front of their child.

Maybe she's showing off to cover the cracks in their relationship?

Snowyhere2018 · 20/03/2018 07:52

I know someone like this and always think she can't be doing it much to feel the need to brag. I started saying '"TMI", which stopped her.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/03/2018 08:38

Does she think she's the only person on the planet who's having loads of sex.Hmm
An 16 year old lad bragging about his sex life, is one thing. However it sounds rather inappropriate from a fully fledged adult.
Does she know about yours and dps issues, If so. That's a lousy trick to rub salt in the wounds. Next time she mentions it either change the subject or simply tell her you're not interested.

Whatshallidonowpeople · 20/03/2018 09:01

How can you be partners if you are just getting accustomed to each other?

coconuttella · 20/03/2018 09:09

You could always trying outdoing her as in “You only did it 5 times last week?! Poor you... I can’t imagine being neglected by my DP like that. Maybe invest in a good vibrator.... We only did it three times last night and twice this morning before breakfast!” That would soon shut her up!

Creambun2 · 20/03/2018 09:10

Talking about one's sex life is vulgar.

midnightmisssuki · 20/03/2018 09:21

yuck - do people actually do this is real life!!! is nothing sacred anymore Confused Tell her to stop and thats it makes you uncomfortable.

GladAllOver · 20/03/2018 09:23

For the first few times I let it go but recently it's been making me feel inadequate in my relationhip so I gave her an overview of some of the issues with me
That was your mistake OP. You are over sharing too. Tell her outright that you no longer want to share personal issues - sex or anything else.

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