Feeling a bit hurt might be oversensitive

[jmh740]

I've been ill with flu since wed. Oh was away with his friends so my mum has helped me with the children oh came back Friday in time to pick children up from school. I've been in bed all weekend oh has taken the kids out and done some jobs that needed doing. He is not the best nurse he's slept in the spare room because he doesn't want to catch anything he has MS and can't afford to get sick. I just need some tlc but he's reluctant to be anywhere near me at the minute. The flu symptoms seem to be much better but yesterday I put my back out coughing I'm in agony. Oh has just texted me to say he's not going to the pub tonight with work any more as one of the others can't make it. Am I wrong to feel like he shouldn't be going because I need him here for me.

He’s taken all the chores and kids (as he should) but I wouldn’t feel he had to cancel social events. As long as you can reach water meds and food you really don’t ‘need’ him there, and if he’s not a good nurse why would you even want him! Maybe ask you mum to drop in?

I wouldn't expect my husband to be my nurse, but I would expect him to look after the kids.

I think given the circumstances of his MS then he is being sensible keeping his distance. As for not going out tonight, it depends, if I was seriously unwell that I couldn't manage and the kids couldn't get to bed themselves. I would expect him to be home, but if the kids could manage and or he went out later than it wouldn't bother me.

He’s got ms. Yabu

Perhaps he said that as he felt you might have said "no you go it'd if he had offered to stay in with you because you were ill.
If others were still going he could of gone but he is coming home to you.
Possibly being stuck in bed feeling awful has made you feel slightly sensitive op.
I hope you feel much better very soon

Thanks I'm just feeling sorry for myself I guess. The flu is having an impact on my diabetes so I'm not as rational as usual I just want a cuddle and a bit of looking after. I can't get my mum round she's picking the kids up from school. He's been away all last week at Cheltenham with his friends and I guess I just wanted him to sit wit me for a bit and chat to me about his trip and give me a cuddle but I know he can't afford to get ill.