She's taking it too far! Advice pls

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Well, to try and cut a long story short. My friend of about 7 years decided at Christmas she would launch a scathing attack on me, via fb pm. Basically the nessage was about how I'm a sh*tty friend as I don't make enough effort with her, text her enough or take time out for her. Baring in mind christmas day and boxing day she wanted to get together, I didn't as i was 7 months pregnant and find the holidays quite a tough time. Anyway over the same period my "friend" had started a mental health blog which i didnt comment about to her how i felt about it etc and kept my opinions regarding it to myself. After the hurtful and abusive messages she sent me, she said "also thanks for the support on the blog" at this point I couldn't hold my breath any longer and told her I didn't like her self-indulgent blog as it seemed very hypocritical and categorised everybody with mental health issues under the same bracket. Anyway, i did find the blog particularly offensive towards myself, as i have struggled with mental health for a long time stemming from being abused for 8 years of my life, hence why christmas and the focus on family time is difficult. From this reply, which i do believe was daft of me and i stooped to her level I received a backlash from her saying i always use my problems as an excuse for being a selfish person. Well, i blocked her after this and basically cut off al contact via any form as I'm due to give birth and really don't need the stress. She has done the opposite and used her "blog" as a platform to slag me off and talk about my issues and most of her "followers" have had an input on how she doesn't need negativity like me in her life. I have tried to not let that get to me and kept ignoring is, but now i have other mothers at the school both our children attend coming up to me saying the ex-friend has warned them away from me as i'am poison and i have nobody and nothing nice to say about anyone. I'm also a user and she thinks i should move away for a fresh start as I'm 30 with my 3rd child on he way and alone. Now i'am at the point where iam reeling inside and would love to approach said person and put her straight about the lies she is spreading. She's completely trying to drag my name through the dirt but all one sided. Do i keep on ignoring the childish yet infuriating behaviour or do i act on it? I'd like to say it doesn't bother me but the more i hear she has said the more i want to react. Please just give me advice, your opinion, or anything!! Thankyou

Oh gosh just ignore and disengage!

You do know that this could be counted as harassment under the Telecommunications Act? Does she name you in the blog?

I would block her, but also report her for her continued online harassment and tell anyone who comes up to you telling tales that she’s just pissed off that you’ve cut her off due to her nastiness to you.

Wtf is wrong with her?! How do people have time in their lives to target people like this??

I can’t stand people who go on about their blogs. There’s a woman at work who writes a blog. I find her very boring, I cannot imagine wanting to follow her fucking blog when I already have to put up with her condescending nonsense at work.

Can you sue her for slander?

Approaching her won't stop her.

Of course her blog painted you as the baddie. Otherwise she'd not be able to paint herself the victim to seek the "support" she felt lacking.

But most people will have sense to realise that her describing you as "poison" says more about her than you

If she names you or makes it really obvious who you are report the blog to the host, have it removed.

Don't bother trying to talk to her... it won't do you, or your blood pressure, any good.

Be brave and tell the people who talk to you - who obviously see through her - that you are trying to ignore her and that you have no idea why she is blogging such personal and hurtful lies! Be blunt, but don't give more information or get drawn into conversation. Just those 2 statements. They get it, they wouldn't talk to you if they didn't!

Good luck!

speaking from personal experience of similar (but more serious accusations) please report it to the police, take the blog address so it can be viewed and reviewed. hopefully a warning from them will scare enough her to stop.

she's is indirectly trying to intimidate you to move so she can be seen as being "in the right" when you do so and gaining gratification by people agreeing with her.
It is horrendous i was also pregnant when it happened to me, so you have my sympathies.