I am being unreasonable and irrational, talk sense into me!

[Bryonie2017]

H and I have been separated since January and have a 7 month old DD. Arrangement is that he sees her on Sundays and so far he has only missed one Sunday due to work. I have her the rest of the time except when I'm working myself which means getting up at 5.30am and home between 6 and 7 Monday to Friday (my mum has her then) she is still up once or twice a night.

Well he has just rang. Today he has a cold and won't be over today and I'm just SO ANGRY! I'm knackered! I have a ton of housework to do and job applications to complete and I was going to have a sleep but it was going to work because he was going to have DD.

Except now I still have to do all that and look after her and I just want to cry. It's just so hard and I want to stamp my feet about how unfair it is that I have to look after myself and her no matter how I feel and he just has to look after himself. Children are supposed to have two parents!

How do I get over myself?

He only sees her one day a week? Do you have any help from his parents?

Nope no help from his family. My parents are great as I'm staying with them until I have a job that will allow me to get paid childcare.

How formal is your arrangement?
It is up to him to arrange childcare for Sundays.
If he can't look after DD, he needs to arrange alternative childcare, which is not you.

You don't want your little dd catching a cold though!!

Completely informal breakfast. And he won't anyway, he's not coming and that's that. Why do you think I left him? He doesn't get that DD is both of our responsibility and he certainly doesn't care enough about me to think about how I feel! He simply won't put anyone else above himself.

Could you swap another day? Could he drop your DD off at your mums if he had her in the week?

I think it’s time to formalise the arrangements

Nope can't swap he has work and so do I. So that's it till next Sunday provided he feels better.

Hesterson a screaming row probably. Can't anyway it's too far by public transport (he drives I dont) as to be pointless. Plus it wouldn't help with everything I have to do.