DP didn’t say good luck, AIBU?

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My DP is away at the moment holiday, week away with a group of friends. He only goes every couple of years and I’ve been pleased for him to have a good time and relax, we’ve sent nice messages to each other.
Yesterday I had an event which was important to me - I play competitive sport and this was a biggish one. Usually DP would come and watch to support me, so I was a bit disappointed it clashed with his holiday, but not too much so. Yesterday came and went and he didn’t text me to say good luck before, or afterwards to ask how it went. AIBU to feel a bit hurt? I know he’s having a great time away and I do want him to have fun and relax, but feel a bit hurt that he forgot something important to me. WIBU to tell him I was disappointed when he gets back? Or am I being a bit precious. Please give me honest opinions, I don’t want to make a big deal out of nothing.

Is it possible he simply forgot about your event? Not making excuses for him, but perhaps with the excitement of going away he genuinely forgot. Hope your event went well x

It's a bit disappointing, but I wouldn't make a big thing of it as an isolated event. My guess is that he forgot because he was caught up in other things.

He probably forgot. You know what it's like on holiday, one day merges into the next..

I don't wish people luck, as it isn't luck that gets them anywhere is it - it is hard work. Kind of minimises the effort they have put in.

Thank you - yes I’m sure he just forgot because he’s having a good time. He’s usually really supportive and caring. I suspect I’m making a bigger deal of it than I should because I am in mid PMT! It went really well, thank you for asking

Fair point @TERFragetteCity I have trained really hard for this. Which DP well knows....

I’d just text and say ‘[event] went well thanks...’

Of course you can feel a bit hurt at feeling forgotten - but don't have a go at him when he gets home. He'll probably ask right away!

I thought about that TrialsMum but doesn’t it sound really passive aggressive, whichever way I put it?

TrialsMum 's suggestion does sound passive aggressive. I wouldn't send it.

I'm sure the event will come up in conversation once he's home and then he'll probably be apologetic that he forgot about it.

If he is usually there for you in person, then I would try to let this one go. I speak as someone who ran loads of races when the dc were small, and no one ever came to support, and I used to come home and cook Sunday roast after running half marathons on my own! I was so pleased when I entered one this year and dh said ‘we’ll be there to support you this time’. Well done by the way!

Don't send a message with an unwarranted 'thanks' on the end - that's really passive aggressive.

Either wait until he's back and have a chat that you were a bit hurt, so he knows it matters to you. Or text him a genuine message that it went well etc.

If he's not constantly forgetting you, or being selfish then I'd probably let it go myself...

Well done by the way.

That's disappointing, but if it's a one off I am guessing he has lost track of days and it will occur to him in a day or two and he will apologise.

Ok thank you for your comments. He is usually very caring, and it’s been a long time since he had a break. And I am definitely hormonal! I’m going to let it go, and just mention the event when he’s back, in a non emotive way. Thank you for your advice.

I’d just text and say ‘[event] went well thanks...’

Please do not send this.

Believe it or not but some people say it's unlucky to wish people luck.

I’d just text and say ‘[event] went well thanks...’

Don’t send that, whatever you do.

It sounds like he just forgot. I’d just mention it went well, today in the middle of general conversation. Otherwise you’ll be thinking about it until he gets back.
I expect he’ll aplogise for forgetting about it.

Lol at the poster who feels hard done by for running “unsupported” when her kids were small. If a man had posted that...

You could just text him to say how it went. Not PA or anything just conversation.

He forgot that's all, we are only human. Once reminded he can congratulate you etc.

I hardly think no acknowledgement before or after the event would be because of a superstitious aversion to wishing somebody good luck. At this time of year if he's away with friends I expect he's either on a stag do or skiing - either of which will mean he's likely to have just been really busy and forgotten. If he's a good egg usually then don't be too upset, OP. Just tell him how it went when he gets back and he'll probably say "oh shit, yeah, so sorry I forgot to ask!"

Thank you!! I’ve gone for casual mention in mid text conversation, nothing critical or passive aggressive.

He won't have forgotten entirely most likely - if he's on holiday he'll have lost track of what day it is.

Has he replied? Hope you're feeling a bit better now.

He replied, stressed about flights being delayed and not mentioning the event. Oh well....