To get prior warning?

[privateporcupine]

My DS13 stays with his dad 2/3 nights per week. He has a key for our house to let himself in after school, but not yet for there, though it’s in the pipeline.

Twice this week, my DS has turned up at our house, to change clothes, collect stuff, and I’ve not known he’s coming. This is his Saturday for his dads and I wasn’t expecting to see him until dinner time tomorrow. This also happened early Wednesday morning.

I’ve started seeing someone in the last month or so and neither DS or my ex know this. It’s making me uncomfortable knowing DS could turn up at any moment and I’m with my BF. But this is his home.

So, how do I get round it without having to tell him and ex about the new guy yet?

it's his house, he can go in and out when he wants, the same way you do, sorry.

SD1978 has it spot on

juts a I’ve met someone, we are dating, but currently not seriously enough I’d want to introduce you. His name is x, and he stays over. If you need to come and grab some stuff when you’re at your dads, can you give me a ring so that I make sure I’m in? Doesn’t need to be a big deal

my DM dated a lot when i was younger, but we never met them until she was ready, and thought it was the right time. We knew she was dating and it was fine. Your DS is old enough now to know that you are dating, and it shouldnt be a big deal (will only be a big deal if you make it one)