To expect more at 3?

[NomsQualityStreets]

Prepared to be told I'm BU, I feel bad even writing this but I am a little concerned about DS and not sure if I'm just being weird.

He's 3 (just) he doesn't speak in sentences properly, he manages 3 words here and there and a lot of them are only understood by me or DP as he doesn't pronounce them properly. He's generally very giddy and all over the place and it's extremely hard to get his attention when we're not at home.

In comparison to other children his age we hang out with he's got virtually no attention span he runs around like crazy (especially at soft play) and it's very hard to get him to stop and listen. Other DCs happily walk holding their parents hands and even chatter a bit whilst he tries to rip away and run around.
Same goes for teaching the basics like "sharing" other children seem to kind of "get it" they might not be too happy but will share/let another DC have a toy or whatever at the parents encouragement, my DS just shouts "no! mine!" and bursts into instant loud crying. Even much younger DCs often let him have toys because of the way he gets

I've recently watched my friend have a proper conversation with her just turned 2yo, something I can't even dream of with DS ATM!

And what concerns me the most is his crying, as soon as he starts crying he starts coughing, depends on how much he manages to work himself up he sometimes even ends up slightly retching multiple times despite my best efforts to calm him down.

Potty training is also out of the question ATM.

I expected him to talk a lot more and be a bit more "with it" at this age.

AIBU?

Thank you for all the replies I'm now really worried.

To the poster that asked, he doesn't know his ABCs , he can comfortably count to 10 and can get a few numbers past that sometimes (up to maybe around 15). He knows lots of animals though as he seems to love them especially jungle ones. He won't say "rhino" he has to say "rhinoceros" etc

His HV is coming soon so I will discuss with her I guess. He had an assessment about 5/6 months ago now and he's doing very well when it comes to the physical side of things being able to stand on one leg etc
He couldn't thread the little beads she brought with her and obviously couldn't copy her if she drew a line but I don't know wether that's down to his fine motor skills not being there or just his really short attention span - he will just start drawing squiggles rather than copy what I draw.

To add to the sharing thing, to be fair to him he is happy to share with his baby brother, he even shared his comfort teddy with him whom he is very protective about and will happily share all sorts of things with him if I ask him to. It's just when it comes to other children he's not having it, he might be playing with 10 cars and if someone takes one he won't accept that he should share the one as he still has 9 - that 1 car is still HIS and he must have it back and will meltdown if he doesn't get it.

Please don’t be too worried. You’ll make yourself ill and this could all just be a bit of development delay that will catch up. The car thing, I know loads of kids that would be the same. Get your assessment lined up but don’t start labelling your little boy before you know there’s an issue. And if there is , early intervention is the key. Sending you a little hug, not very mumsnet but having been there , albeit a long time ago, I know how worrying all this is xx

Yes please try not to worry. Lots of what you’ve said sounds pretty typical of many 3 year olds to me. Even if there is something that is not quite right (eg speech delay) that doesn’t mean it won’t resolve itself in time, or that some appropriate intervention (speech therapy etc) won’t sort it out.

All will be well one way or another