People inviting themselves to stay

[Ilovemaryberry]

My second anti social thread of the week. Starting to think I'm just a massive introvert who wants to go into hibernation...anyway

My friend is having a birthday night out on Sat and it's a few hours drive away and I'm working so I declined the invite.
She told me she was coming to my area after the night out and asked what my day off was. I said that's great let's meet up and spend the day together.
She has now sent me a message saying it will be her and her sister coming up but they have nowhere to stay so will put up a camp bed in my living room and stay for two nights
I am working and only off one day a week. Dh has work too and leaves at 5.30am and has never even met them. I also have a dd and will have the school run to do and work full time and then they expect me to come home and host while they take over my living room.
Aibu to think you don't just invite yourself to stay with your sister during a time when people are working and have things on.
She made it sound like she was just visiting for the day and would like to see me.
I'm going to have to think of a polite way of saying no.
I like my own space and my own company and I also enjoy spending my evenings with dh and dd. I like meeting with friends with proper arrangements in place.
Maybe I'm just a misery guts but I'm going to have to embrace it.

I don't think it has anything to do with being introverted or not, your friend is just being rude.

Just say what you've written earlier, you'd love her to like the old days but if she'd given you enough notice you'd have arranged time off and it would have been like the good old days. Unfortunately it's not convenient and won't have enough time to prepare but let's sort something proper soon.

don't feel bad OP.. I'm stunned at how rude people are with others peoples homes

Def don’t feel rude,she’s being cheeky.

YANBU, I hope she doesn’t give you any ag!

YANBU - I like my own space in our fsmily home, too. Hate overnight visits!

Alright first off, if she was a close mate she’d have met your dh. So she’s not. So straight off, what an absolute fucking cheek to think she can use a family home where she only knows one occupant and bring someone else along.

Second, stop feeling bad! I’d have replied hahaha as if, even if we had the room it wouldn’t be ok- dh has never even met you and you want to be bringing someone else he’s never met and leaving you both while we work? Pull the other one! Love to do lunch, where you thinking?

Then she can either realise she’s a cf or piss off and moan to whoever wants to listen that you’re no fun now you’ve got responsibilities 🙄 either way, sack this one off

"Sorry for my delay in replying. I was just a bit taken aback by you changing the goalposts so abruptly,and not sure how to reply. Since you need a decision, though, it's got to be a no. Meeting up with you while you're in town would be fine, but we're really not up for hosting over two days when we have work on and DH has to leave each day at 530 am. He needs to use the downstairs so as not to wake everyone up, so the sitting room's just not available for people to crash in.

"If you had saud it wasn't just the meetup but for two days and staying, I would have had a chance to explain this before you built your plans around me.

"Let me know if you find a hotel/ air bnb and still want to meet for lunch."