My partners going to work for his dads business with no knowledge whatsoever?

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My fiancé has just been diagnosed with severe psoriasis on his hands, after cheffing for over 15 years (passionate head chef) he now has to re consider his job. Basically he's been told to leave. His father owns a large company doing construction work, and has offered him a general manager position. Secure, yes. Good pay? Yes. However my OH knows NOTHING about the field. I have to do the DIY and fix things around the house for crying out loud?! Plus even as a head chef, he's soft. Very soft. He's not "management material" in my eyes and I'm so so so concerned he's going to be seen as "daddy's boy" who got a senior position because of his blood - he won't be respected and he won't be able to assert authority due to a)he doesn't know more than them b)he doesn't have that sort of personality. I'm concerned and I'm scared, and I've phrased all this gently to him and he just calls me negative and always trying to burst his bubble. AIBU?!

Maybe his dad can see past his raw skin
more than you

Get him onto Vitamin D creams
and let his Dad sort the work stuff

I know someone who was in a similar position. They insisted on working their way up from the bottom, so they knew the business inside out by the time they were managing the business. They were paid managerial wages while they worked their way up.

It seems to have worked well. The person I know was in nursing, and went into hospitality, so a lot of transferable skills, which is probably similar with your DH. It's just the knowledge of the business they was lacking, but can be learned.

I work for a large family construction firm. I can’t even change a fuse.

I can keep tabs on costings, deal with sub contractors (CIS, Invoicing etc) cross check delivery tickets, invoices, time sheets etc etc. Our managers based in the office are more organisational management than actual construction.

GPs are not great at psoriasis. Has he seen a specialist? I've struggled for years, finally got referred to a specialist nurse practitioner and she prescribed me stuff that has practically cleared it in a couple of weeks.

I still don't quite get your point?
What's wrong with doing something because it's easy?

Can he not carry on in a kitchen but wear the disposable gloves?

Definitely needs to see a specialist. I've suffered for years too and it can be controlled. Good luck whatever ye decide.

I work in health care and change gloves about 30 times a day so food prep should not be an issue?

A lot of gloves irritate his skin, heat is irritating it and acids etc from food is too - plus the stress of it all makes it worse I suppose. He seems happy enough (considering) and I've had a chat and apologised and said I'll support him in whatever. All is good and balanced :)

Unusual for someone to complain about nepotism in this scenario?!
Let his dad pay his way. See how it pans out.

The use of the word nepotism is judgemental and not particular helpful given the circumstances.

My father had an engineering business and he would have loved one of his children to take over the reigns. If his father has built up a successful business, it is not unreasonable that he would welcome the opportunity to involve a child in the management of that business. I

In this case OP has followed their own career and has, for good though unfortunate reasons, had to stop that.

Families help each other, that is a good thing IMHO. Much better than having to claim benefits and rely on the state which could be an alternate scenario here.

OP has been very clear in her reservations and has been very open to advice. I can see no reason to have a dig.

Not OPs' career - her fiancé

It wasn't a dig. It's not up to the OP to decide what her DH does career wise if it does not impact her. It'll either work out or it wont. She might as well support it even if he crashes and burns.

@Madonnasmum I see your opinion, but it does impact me whether this works we do have a mortgage and bills to pay (which I couldn't afford alone), so would rather him not crash and burn - end up having to sell the house because I'd regret not speaking up sooner about my concerns and could've found a better route you know? I think that's where my panic and fear came a little from all this maybe

@Yarboosucks you've been so helpful on this thread! And your last post is so valid. He's his fathers only son and my future FIL has always expressed how he wanted him to go into his trade and have the business, more pressure for my OH now because he doesn't have a reason not to I suppose. Again why I was worried he's only saying yes because of that playing a factor.

Lets be pragmatic - a large construction business will have spare cash, the DH has been employed without the position being advertised, he will always have a job, the family business will absorb him, regardless of whether the job actually exists or not.

I'd always err caution on working for family, living in each others pockets can be damaging to relationships. People ask things and take advantage of family members that they wouldn't do to standard employees.