To feel frustrated?

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This is a tiny tiny thing, but I just feel frustrated. If I could sum up the situation with an emoticon, I’d use 🙄.

I met a guy on Tinder, and saw him a couple of times over the last few weeks.

We got on quite well, and I had a nice time both times that we met. I found him very attractive, he made me laugh etc etc, and we’d been chatting between meeting up.

During the two times we met, we didn’t kiss or anything, and I was really happy to be taking it slowly, as I prefer it that way.

We arranged to meet for a third time yesterday, and he invited me to his. I didn’t feel ready, so asked if we could meet at a pub or somewhere instead of going to his.

The area where he lives is a little awkward for me to get to, so I framed my reply to him as asking if we could meet somewhere equally convenient for us both. He didn’t read the message for a while, and then didn’t reply. We haven’t spoken since.

AIBU to feel frustrated at this situation? It just feels like, the more I got to know him, the more he wanted everything on his own terms?

I know it’s not an unusual situation, but it just pisses me off how some people think it’s okay to always want everything on their own terms? Although we got on well, the more I saw of his personality, the less I liked him.

Anyone else?

Guess it’s just me then

Haven't you posted this before?

Sounds like he's a bit selfish, so I wouldn't pursue. Plenty of fish, and all that.

No I haven’t posted about it before, Pretty. Is there a similar thread? I agree, Sponge - it did come across as selfish.

He wanted to get laid and you weren’t playing ball it looks to me.

Isn’t tinder for hooking up for sex anyway?

I do agree with previous posters that Tinder as I understand it is an app for sex and not really looking for meaningful relationships? Why not try a legitimate dating site you might find someone more suited OP?

I didn't think Tinder was purely a hook up site? Unless you state in your profile that that's all you're after.

OP, what can we say? He sees the two dates you've had as the precursor to the Third Date, when you're (apparently) obliged to Put Out. You're not playing the game, so not worth bothering with now.

You say that the more you saw of him, the less you liked him, so why would you even consider a third date?

Chin up chicken. (By the way that's a term of affection in my lingo).

As you say:
Although we got on well, the more I saw of his personality, the less I liked him.

Means that you were feeling something was a bit off.

The dating game is a minefield. The key is to keep your heart guarded and don't give up more than you are willing to lose.

It might help to take a bit of time-out to regather but don't let one toad put you off for life. I have friends that have given up on men altogether for life, and others that are out most nights on a new date, and everything in-between.

Only you know what's best for you. All I can say is, make sure you keep yourself together. If you can't for now then take a break.

Have you asked about this a few times already???

Thanks everyone! :) Snowy this is my first post about this.

Good riddance. You did the right thing and continue to follow your gut. He was obviously looking for a shag. Did he really think 2 dates and his in?! If he kept in touch with you, that's obviously because he genuinely likes you and has the right intentions. But he didn't so adios amigos

but it just pisses me off how some people think it’s okay to always want everything on their own terms? Although we got on well, the more I saw of his personality, the less I liked him

Well, actually, it is. You can lay out your boundaries as you like, if someone wants to find someone that will fit in with them, that's ok. You don't want to do that. that's also ok. You can ask for you want, and decide what you want to give and so can he and everyone else.