To be crying like a right twat.

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Broke up with partner. We have 3 beautiful kids 12, 2 and 5 months.

I was cleaning whilst watching YouTube videos then perfect by Ed Sheehan and Say you won't let you came on.

AIBU to be crying over the fact I don't think I'll find love like that. 3 kids, an ex who is resistant to the fact it's over and some fun minor mental health issues. Who's going to want that? Im in no position to look for a new partner, I'm just feeling sad for the future lonely, cat lady that I will become.

Someone come along and virtually slap me please. I'm only 28, I have time. I just don't feel that way at the moment.

Sorry you're feeling so down

If your best friend came to you and said this about herself, what would you tell her, OP?

@carryondoctor I'd tell her to get a grip. I'm usually a very hard, fierce person with a "no man, no problem" attitude.

I think I'm feeling the need for affection after not having any for so long.

I've recently split from partner of 11 years. I'm not on my own, I have my DS. Like you. Put your love into your children, into your self worth. Build yourself up and don't dwell on the past or worry about future relationships. Harder said then done, I well know, but believe in yourself xx

I was a few years older than that with four kids and a crazy ex when I met my husband. I hope you find your happily ever after when you are ready. Whether that is a partner who adores you or a renewed happiness being single.

friendly virtual slap

I posted here to get some harsher responses. Come on guys! I'm a fully grown woman crying over YouTube love videos.

Someone tell me I'm a twat.

(Thanks for the supportive people so far, you're all lovely people)

Well... YABVVVVU for listening to the Ginger Whinger

I bawl my eyes out over certain Morrissey songs on youtube. It washes your brain and does you the world of good.
You are an awesome much adored Mummy to your DC.

oh OP here are some and a

That sounds exactly the right thing to do. Cry buckets; wallow for a while. Then get up, dust yourself off and make a new normal. You will find your strong self in a while. Let yourself feel sad, for now.

@IanRushesInadequateFlushes noted. Nine inch Nails has improved my mood.

Hi Twat!

Seriously, you've only just split up, stop worrying about meeting someone else straight away, look after yourself first.

And 28!? Jesus, you're so young!

@2018SoFarSoGreat alcohol free due to co sleeping.

I need a night away with a bottle of wine. I love my children, they are amazing but I think I may need 24 hours away to snap myself out of this

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

I don't want anyone right now. Jeez I'd rather poke myself in the eyes with glass.

I'm sad for future, lonely me. That is why I am a twat. I'm not even sad for present me. Present me is fine

You just enjoy some good old weepie songs it's allowed. Then have a good weekend with your children. Treat yourselves to something nice, the park an icecream. Or maybe a hot chocolate if it's too cold

oh well take a very large (magically refilled)

Yes. 24 hours to wallow, then back on the horse! That's a good recipe for recovery.

Haha you sound great OP, but I'll tell you to stop being a twat if you like

Now, I really am old, and I haven't had sex for about 5 years (TMI I know), and probably never will again except with Norman Reedus as I just can't get rid of him and I am really happy about that!

You will be fine. Have an indulgent weekend then sod them all, back to it!

Ha, that's much more like it.

Maybe in the immediate short term we should make you an angry break up playlist??

• apologise (timbaland)
• take the long road and walk it (the music) (such angry guitar!!)
• breaking up (Rilo kiley) ("ooh it's good to be free!")
• blow me (P!nk)
• time of your life (green day)
• go your own way (fleetwood Mac)
• irreplaceable (Beyoncé)
• I couldn't be your friend (Tegan and Sara)
• somebody I used to know (gotye)
• you're so vain (Carly simon)
• the sign (ace of base)
• my favourite mistake (sheryl crow)
• how's it gonna be (third eye blind)
• we are never ever getting back together (taylor swift)

@PeppermintPasty 5 years?! After having a man not be able to look at me the same after seeing his big headed children escaping out of my vagina I could kind of do with someone looking at me with passion again. Not immediately, but in the future.

Is there an age limit for tinder?

@IanRushesInadequateFlushes I need angrier, my ex was a real twat. I need lyrics like "I'd rather die than let you back into my life you grade A c**t"

I think you're brave.

Cry your tears and then get on with your fabulous life xxx

I was a single Mum and one of my DC was disabled and I found a lovely partner,we've been together for over 12 years now and I was 30 and my now DH was only 23 so of course you can go onto find someone else to love you and for you to love.

Don't give up your so young,you have plenty of time yet.

I know I am young, but I feel so much older.

I can't imagine meeting a man around my age and saying that I have 3 children. People who manage to move on are a hell of a lot braver than me!

I posted here to get some harsher responses

Ed Sheeran? Jesus - pull yourself together, Woman!

Did that help?

(Hang in there: in 12 months' time, you'll be so glad you made this brave move )

scatter no age limit on Tinder - I've 3 on the go at the moment and I'm 48... ...and having a fabulous time

plus I have a grown up daughter - and 2 cats!

@littlewoollypervert you've given me hope. That's the kind of future I'm after. People my age will either have kids or want them - that doesn't appeal to me.

I guess Ed Sheeran is a pansy. I'll save the love for the kids and consider a different kind of affection. I'm not one for gushy love, I don't know why I'm feeling sad that I will miss something I don't even want.