Is this a cf or am I a idiot (probably both)

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The place I work at offered me a new contract to run how I see fit. I’ve worked my arse off for this. However I’m 20 weeks pregnant so I couldn’t do all the work myself.
I offered a colleague 3 options to join me so to speak.
*go self employed with me and split work/money equally. I provide cover for the 4-6 weeks I’m off having the baby and I pay for it.
*i set up a new company to run the contract and employ her.
*she stays with current contractor and changed job/moves site in June. I hire someone else.

She’s chosen 50/50. Whoop for me least stressful option. So I thought.
I got us more money and hours to do the job (about 65% pay increase)

Now it’s not even started yet and she wants to do exactly the same amount of work. No extra but wants the extra money AND to be able to go home early as often as she feels like.

She doesn’t want to work with me and wants to split the work. So I’m outside doing the hard graft while she’s inside doing the easy bit. The other problem with this is her skills need improvement and I was wanting to retrain her as if she makes a cock up it’s my head on the block but she seems to of stopped listening to me. She knew this.

She’s decided the cover I’m offering and paying for isn’t what she wants. She wants me to employ her friend who she likes working with who will cost ME more money but the cheaper cover I provide can be used when she’s off in October so it doesn’t cost her more money. She also wants her friend to be paid cash in hand. I’m not comfortable with this.

I’m not ashamed to say I am losing my patience with this person now. I honestly thought we could go 50/50 and be a team looking after each other sharing the money and perks this will bring. I’m giving up my smp for this opportunity so it’s a massive risk for me. Just to add I’m not a natural boss or bossy person so last night having a difficult conversation (more of a debate where I was called stupid) about these issues has really got to me

I didn’t sleep last night stressing over this. Am I been a arse? I’m in two minds just to walk away but I’ve worked so hard to get this for my family. She’s not signed contract yet so easy to get out off but would I be a shitty person to take the opportunity away from her now and just hire someone fresh. Or am I been unfair with my original offer?

Help me (runs for cover because I know aibu can be harsh )

Get rid of her, it's only going to get worse and you don't need stress like that

Find somone who appreciates the opportunity but also grow a back bone and understand if you are running a contract and in essance a 'boss' you need to learn to manage. Managing isn't conflict it organisingvshit so that it works for all parties x

Get out of this before the contract is signed. This isn't going to get any better

No, you have to have someone you can rely on and who will chip in on all aspects, I'd withdraw your offer and find an alternative employee

Hire someone else who knows how to act professionally. You'd be a mug if you split this with her 50/50 now that she's already shown her true colours.

I personally would find someone else.
You needs to have 100% trust she is competent at her job and giving her all to make this a success, especially since you want to feel relaxed and focus on your baby while you are on leave.
Feeding your child is your main priority so please don't worry about letting her down. She has had a great opportunity thrown at her and she is being unreasonable.
Good luck OP with whatever you decide and for the little one arriving.

Get out now! If she's acting this unprofessionally now she's going to be a nightmare further down the line when you're off and she considers herself 'in charge'. Can you not find an alternative person to work alongside?

I would agree with pp though - running a contract will involve plenty of difficult conversations - best to make sure you're prepared to put your foot down. Put it this way - if someone I'd recruited for a role took the piss re hours etc, ignored training requirements and called me stupid, their feet wouldn't touch the ground! Thankfully you have an out...

Op, give how fast this has gone downhill, it will only get worse until you literally cannot stand her. And then what? Give her your company or the contract, or pay her off? Really, this is your opportunity to stop it before it starts. Get rid. Do it today.

Thank you all.

mylady. I think you are spot on and put into words how I thought a “boss” should be. I also defo need a backbone before I see her this evening

Be the boss, kick her to the curb and get someone else