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To have a lazy morning instead of toddler activities

27 replies

Mammalamb · 16/03/2018 09:35

I work full time over 4 days and today is my day off with ds (2), we usually go to a toddler class but this morning I just cannot be bothered! My son throws a tantrum every Friday while getting ready. So, instead of being at our usual group, it’s 930 and I’m sitting in my pjs watching peppa pig, playing with play dough and generally being a terrible example to my son! Aibu?

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PurpleBun · 16/03/2018 09:38

For what it's worth, I'm doing exactly the same with my 18mo Grin

We were supposed to be heading to my BILs for the weekend (4 hrs drive away) but have chosen not to go with the snow & ice forecast (and me being heavily pregnant).

Hooray to occasional lazy days! Brew

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Mammalamb · 16/03/2018 09:43

Hope you are having a good lazy day purple!! But you are pregnant so deserve it !

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Bababing1 · 16/03/2018 09:52

Do this all the time with my second- he is at nursery 3 days so that’s plenty of kiddie interaction. On our days we play at home, go out on our own to different places and meet specific friends. My eldest started school this year and time goes so quickly, the days with them alone are precious. At playgroups, I make small talk with people I vaguely know and he runs around. Prefer to have him all to myself 😀

Bababing1 · 16/03/2018 09:55

Don’t think you are a bad example!
It’s nice to relax, esp cramming full time into 4 days.
My son is almost 2 and sometimes an exciting outing is pushing him on his sister’s scooter to a nearby house building site to see the diggers. Why not! He is happy!

Mybabystolemysanity · 16/03/2018 09:55

YANBU.

Took DD to toddler group for the first time on Wednesday. We both spent last night with D and V both ends at same time. She's fine now. I'm not. Protect yourself by staying at home til primary school!

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Mammalamb · 16/03/2018 09:58

My baby that sounds awful. Having d&v is hideous enough but having to look after a wee one while having it is bloody awful

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user1471506568 · 16/03/2018 10:00

YANBU. If you're both happy at home then there is absolutely no reason why you should force yourself to go to the groups? I think encouraging being able to entertain yourself at home and maybe even a bit of unorganised, independent playtime is great for kids. I say this as a parent of a toddler that would be very unhappy to stay in all day so I take her out every morning and afternoon. If she was happy to stay at home sometimes, I would definitely do that!

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 16/03/2018 10:01

Chucking son in play pen so you can spend hours staring at phone - not great parenting.
Peppa Pig and Play D'oh - pretty good in my book😊

Steeley113 · 16/03/2018 10:01

I did this all the time before I went on mat leave. He went to a childminder who took him playgroups and stuff so my days off we’re spent just me and him. He was my little shadow, we’d chill at home, he’d ‘help’ me clean, we’d go to the shops/library/cafe. Much nicer then sitting in a noisy playgroup where I’d actually not spend any quality time with him.

Tryingtokeepfit · 16/03/2018 10:03

What user said!

It's a good skill to entertain themselves from home. If you don't feel like it and they are happy at home then don't feel guilty!

I am doing the same. I don't get out to many toddler groups, DS is happy at home and gets his socialising from his 2 mornings at nursery. He likes to follow me around the house doing housework... I am aware this stage won't last and he will one day become bored of 'helping mummy clean'! But until that day comes...Grin

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Mammalamb · 16/03/2018 10:08

User17.... we will be venturing out this afternoon because we have a play date and lunch with another friend and toddler. I think a whole day at home would be pushing it lol!!!

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laddylonglocks · 16/03/2018 10:08

I don't understand these threads at all... what you're doing is normal everyday stuff. Why do mums feel so guilty about everything?

Mybabystolemysanity · 16/03/2018 10:09

I'm so lucky DH is able to work from home. He'll make an excellent nurse one day!

Eltonjohnssyrup · 16/03/2018 10:10

That sounds lovely. Incidentally with the play doh you are teaching motor skills and chatting to him teaching speech and social skills. Exceptional parenting. Well done.

laddylonglocks · 16/03/2018 10:11

Mamma And you're even having a playdate this afternoon and you're still questioning yourself! Just relax Smile

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Mammalamb · 16/03/2018 10:15

Laddy. I spend my life in a state of guilt. Gullt for being a wohm and guilt for being a half assed employee

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my2bundles · 16/03/2018 10:16

Toddlers need downtime to just play. I really don't understand the current trend of having to fill every minute with an activity for any age group,

Prusik · 16/03/2018 10:20

I spend tonnes of time at home. I didn't realise i was supposed to feel guilty! I do my best but ds1 is 14 months and ds2 is 2 months so we just muddle through

PlowerOfScotland · 16/03/2018 10:22

We've decided to stay in today. Chucked her in a bath with some kitchen utensils and I cleaned the bathroom while watching her play. Long as they're doing a little something and they're happy, you're winning.

GeekyWombat · 16/03/2018 10:24

Laddy. I spend my life in a state of guilt. Gullt for being a wohm and guilt for being a half assed employee

Ha, this is me! In fact the fact that you feel the same makes me feel a bit better which makes me feel guilty again! ;)

whifflesqueak · 16/03/2018 10:34

I do this most days.

I work evenings (5pm-1am) and am up every morning at the crack of dawn (thanks, children).

I feel no guilt. We’re all happy.

clarabellski · 16/03/2018 10:34

We've decided to stay in today. Chucked her in a bath with some kitchen utensils and I cleaned the bathroom while watching her play. Long as they're doing a little something and they're happy, you're winning.

This is genius!

WashBasketsAreUs · 16/03/2018 10:39

I'm not working today, not got any of the grandkids, had a day out shopping earlier in the week and I could do some housework that didn't get done the other day. Sod that, I'm doing nothing and thinking about going for a stroll down town and having a nap this afternoon. No guilt here!

Turkkadin · 16/03/2018 10:39

Mammalamb Why all this guilt? Where is your confidence? Just do whatever you want with this morning. It's only a few hours for gods sake! I could waste a few hours thinking about what I might cook for dinner! I'm sure your little one is just happy to have you in the house with him for a few hours without anyone else around! Modern life is exhausting.

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Mammalamb · 16/03/2018 11:35

Turk: I feel like we should always be doing “worthwhile things” especially as we only get 3 days together a week! I will need to try this “utensils in the bath” trick

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