To be annoyed with DH?

[KaladinStormblessed]

We got married two and a half years ago. I wrote (admittedly slowly) all the thank-you letters for my side and our mutual friends, but I asked him to do his side and he said he would. Just found out he didn’t, (found the stash of unused thank-you cards), so loads of people who bought us generous gifts have had a ringing silence for the last two years. I’m mortified but also really cross with him. Mentioned it to my mum and she said I should have made sure it was done. But I think it was his job, I shouldn’t have to monitor him! AIBU?

Yanbu, and it doesn't bode well for the future.

If you wanted to send thank you cards, you should have done them together, not tell him to reply to "his side"...everyone who attended your wedding were guests to both of you so you should reply together..

Don't sweat it though, you are his wife, not his mother, nobody likes a nag, you can suggest things to him but it's up to him if he wants to do it...

Also I've attended several weddings and received no thank you cards and I didn't expect one, so I wouldn't worry about them not being sent (there is more in life to worry about on the grand scale of things, than cards not being sent two years ago), as long as you thanked the people in person when they handed you the gift then it's good...

In future if you want to send things as a couple, then actually do it as a couple then you know it's been written/sent

But my advice, let it go..otherwise you will have unnecessary arguments and conflict in your home that you don't need to have, and do you really want the memory of your wedding being tarnished by arguments over thank you cards not being sent?

It was his family he chose not to send them cards, his call. If you wanted to send them one then you should have sent them one. Its not a big deal, I doubt anyone knows or cares.

Manners maketh the man.

I'd still send them. pointing out making a joke of his inability to locate the post office.