Regarding DD friends.

[CollyWombles]

My dd is 11 years old and she has a good amount of friends. I'm happy that she is well liked.

I grew up in a tiny village with just myself and my siblings to play with so it's always been important to me that my dc can have friends around and sleepovers too.

To the issue: my door is being knocked on in the region of at least 10 times an evening. Sometimes as late as 20.30.

I have a now 13 year old DDog, a JRT that I got when he was 10. He goes crazy every time someone knocks on the door and will rush straight to it. Half the time one of my DC gets to the front door before me and the dog gets out. He does recall, but if he sees another dog he will go for it.

Then, these friends will often be inside just now (Scotland, rubbish weather etc) sometimes up to 5 or 6 additional children not including my own 4.

Sometimes it's fine, sometimes the noise level gets too much.

My DD has told her friends not to knock after 7pm. The ones with phones she has told to message her. I feel like gradually she is getting stuck in the middle between a rather fed up me and her friends that don't listen!

WIBU to speak to her friends myself after 7pm if they knock at the door and tell them there is a cut off time?

Put a sign on the door? "No knocking!" I put a grumpy face in my window and a happy face to tell my neighbour's kids to leave us alone. (5:45 am knockers - Grrr!). They were too little to read, but they got the message.

That's not unreasonable, and its also usual to limit the number of friends they can have over at any one time. We used to be the family that always hosts, and it can get a bit much. Its ok to set limits.

I thought about a note on the door saying no knocking after 7pm and shut the gate!