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Bigot at work

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Blankuser1992 · 15/03/2018 22:20

So

I’m currently working for a rather large well known cooperation... doing general admin work.

I’m in a small team doing this and well.. one guy is being a complete ass hat.

Typical comments such as;

“Hey sugar tits” - I don’t find this funny, nor is it banter he has on more than one occasion stated he says this to me to annoy me.

“Eww gay people” and “I don’t want gay people near me or talking to me” - any mention of a gay celeb and off he goes on his bigoted rant

Constantly critiques me on how I speak, saying I sound posh and mocks me for how I interacts with customers.

States he deletes customers cases because he doesn’t like them!

Asked if another female worker was ticklish while was standing behind her while she’s on the phone, was about to tickle her before I pointed out this was VERY creepy.

General is a sleeze guy ....

Now .. this isn’t a permanent job for me and I’m worried that if I report him to HR it will cost ME my job.

What do I do?

OP posts:
altiara · 15/03/2018 22:40

I’d report him, sounds horrendous! I’d trust the HR department in my company to sort it out.

VioletteValentia · 15/03/2018 22:41

Report to HR.

mamas12 · 15/03/2018 22:47

Report referencing the #metoo campaign saying that you are sure they would like to be seen to be on board woth such an important movement and here is their chance to point out the inappropriateness (at least) of this creeps behaviour and ask him to go on an awareness course

LeighaJ · 15/03/2018 22:52

Report him, there's protection in place for firing someone as retaliation.

Sparklesocks · 15/03/2018 22:56

Report him, but also start a log of all his horrible comments (date, time, what he says etc)

KennDodd · 15/03/2018 22:58

I wouldn't report him to HR because the fact is we don't like in this lovely world we're you will have no price to pay. You say this isn't a permanent job? If you are leaving soon report him when you leave (after new job is secured). Not the right thing to do sadly but the pragmatic thing to do.

Whizbang · 15/03/2018 23:17

Definitely report him. What an arse. I think HR will be grateful for the heads up. This sort of behaviour can be very damaging to an organisation’s reputation and they will want to put a stop to it.

TabbyMack · 15/03/2018 23:42

All of those things would be worthy of a written warning where I work...followed by sacking if it didn’t stop.

Report him.

MissionItsPossible · 15/03/2018 23:46

I wouldn't report him to HR because the fact is we don't like in this lovely world we're you will have no price to pay.

So what? If he didn’t act the way he did and do his job unprofessionally there’d be nothing to report to HR. I would.

Uniglo18 · 16/03/2018 02:26

I'd report him but I'd emphasise the damage that he's doing to the company's reputation whilst doing so. That's the only thing that will make them take notice and action. Say that he's often overheard by others on the phone and in the office making these vile comments.

DalekDalekDalek · 16/03/2018 02:33

He's guilty of homophobia and sexual harassment at the very least. Document all incidents and report to HR.

Kursk · 16/03/2018 03:00

If you can afford to loose your job report him. You don’t know what HR will do so if you report him you should be fully prepared to take the hit too.

Not saying it right, but as another poster pointed out we don’t live in a nice pink and fluffy world.

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