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Original poster

Year 2 teacher not acknowledging my child's allergy!

126 replies

101waystoworry · 15/03/2018 09:28

Hey guys, I am really not sure what to do here! My DD is in year 2, she is very allergic to chicks, she cannot touch them at all. Yesterday they had some chicks in class, parents were not informed, and DD was told by her teacher that she was fine to pick them up, ect. Luckily she was ok, last time she was incredibly poorly. I don't understand why the children's notes where not checked, surely teachers are meant to check when doing a safeguarding check?
I spoke to him this morning and he did not apologise, he just stated the children all washed their hands after!! This is the second time the class has not looked after her properly, last month at the end of the day, they lost DD and to make it worse they didn't even notice. She had gone off with her friend! ( I have spoken to her about this obviously and she understands this was wrong) My friend notice her and took her back to school! So AIBU to be worried they are not safeguarding properly? Would I be unreasonable to write an email to the head expressing this worry? I am at a loss at how someone could be so unbothered about an allergy!

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elisenbrunnen · 15/03/2018 12:48

What's with all the Hmms? People can be allergic to almost anything - including cute fwuffy chicks! Hmm

When I worked in a school, we had kids who were allergic to dogs, cats, chicks, dairy, nuts, sesame, grass, trees... lots of stuff. And yes, the teacher should be aware, and take steps to remove the allergen if possible.

Def have a word. And if she is allergic, better find out how much - she may need an epipen, and is possibly allergic to other things too.

Original poster
101waystoworry · 15/03/2018 12:48

I am going to leave this now guys. Thank you to everybody who posted such nice things! :)

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TERFragetteCity · 15/03/2018 13:07

She ISN'T 'very' allergic to chicks if she touched one and was fine. If she was very allergic, she'd have had a reaction.

Stop it with the nonsense. If I touch a feather I am fine. If i breathe feathers in I am in hospital. Hence having to buy a new pillow [synthetic] every single holiday...or taking my own if I drive there.

Allergies don't ask people on MN permission to exist! FFS.

WheresTheHooferDoofer · 15/03/2018 13:16

LittleCandle What happened with the nut allergy teacher? I hope they got severely disciplined at the very least.

chloesmumtoo · 15/03/2018 13:30

Chicken allergy www.healthline.com/health/chicken-allergy

chloesmumtoo · 15/03/2018 13:34

You would be better in the allergy section 101waystoworry for those which understand allergies

seventh · 15/03/2018 13:59

The school have never asked for evidence.

Because as the mother it's up to you to provide information.

happyvalley74 · 15/03/2018 14:12

Yes if you mention an allergy in passing is actually down to you to provide school with details. If you don't, then they don't know do they?

So I think YABU on that one

Original poster
101waystoworry · 15/03/2018 14:22

Goodness! I wrote her allergy down on all the necersary papers!! How am i meant to know that they needed any evidence without being told, i am not a mind reader!

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Falmer · 15/03/2018 15:05

MN really gets on my nerves sometimes! Never heard of a chick allergy, some bb holders can't really be disabled because they 'appear' normal, people on benefits shouldn't have a holiday and on and on.....Pathetic! OP, it doesn't matter whether dd still has the allergy or not. This could have had serious consequences, complain to the Head and inform Ofsted, In my opinion.

chloesmumtoo · 15/03/2018 15:12

101waystoworry, sorry not up with all the posts. Tried posting earlier and lost everything I had written!
Yes you definitely need to speak to the school regarding her allergies. My dd's primary school asked me for evidence in the very beginning else I wouldn't have know I would have to give it either and that was many many years ago. It seems like your school is quite out of touch.
Yes getting the allergy test done again sounds like a good idea especially before anyone starts assuming she hasn't got it anymore, that is my main concern. As a mum with an allergic daughter I feel you need to know where you stand with this. Then you can go from there educating your school properly.
When I found out my dd had a life threatening allergy to peanuts and many other things in milder forms I had to educate her school thoroughly. Not so much was known back then either. I then advise finding out all you can and printing stuff out for the staff to understand. Our allergy clinic also personally drew up a protocol for her school but dd's is food related. Staff even got trained in using an epipen via the nhs back then. I purchased school an epipen trainer pen too. But schools seem to know a lot more today in general but obviously yours maybe not so!
It is bad this happened (re school) and assuming because she didn't react this time, she is okay, I feel is wrong and could worsen the situation. Ever since my dd was first diagnosed I was always told her reaction could be mild or severe. It just depends.
You need to find more info especially so that you can enforce things for her own safety and give clear facts and information. Tell this to your doctor, she was put at risk and that you need re testing at the allergy clinic to confirm things with school.
It shouldn't have happened and she could have ended up uncomfortable, unwell or worse depending on severity of her allergy.
Letting her out of school is very bad too, do you think they said she was at her friends for tea? Even so mentioning this to the head is needed, somethings going a miss somewhere. Goodluck

Caterina99 · 15/03/2018 15:25

My DS has some allergies, although he seems to be outgrowing some of them. Would I be angry if the nursery ignored his notes and gave him peas? Even though he’s actually outgrown the mild pea allergy and can eat them (found out recently). Yes I would. It’s not their descision to make, and until I tell them otherwise it should be considered potentially life threatening

chloesmumtoo · 15/03/2018 15:33

Oh and ignore stupid replies, I agree with Falmer
Makes my blood boil
Yes allergies tend to bring out the worse responses from people
I was once looked at stupidly for avoiding 'may contains nuts' foods by a fellow mum at playschool due to my dd's severe allergy. 'Oh your not avoiding everything with may contain nuts are you?' with a judgemental expression. Was the same mum who was causing a fuss because her darling boy could not take peanuts on the playschool outing to feed the swans because of my dd. Once they knew my dd was being kept home they were over the moon. And they took their bloody peanuts. I have never got over certain peoples responses from that very difficult time.

GinIsIn · 15/03/2018 15:57

As a matter of fact, I have allergies myself. Which is why I asked the OP to clarify saying her DD has a ‘chick allergy’, and she has since stated she meant a feather allergy.

The reason I, and several other posters, who also mentioned having allergies, asked is because people make up all kinds of rubbish and claim all kids of fabricated allergies which makes it harder for genuine allergies to be taken seriously.

Your blood can boil away for all I care, it doesn’t stop it being a valid question.

chloesmumtoo · 15/03/2018 16:02

I was talking in general on several replies not you personally FenellaMaxwellsPony

Original poster
101waystoworry · 15/03/2018 16:10

chloesmumtoo thank you so much for your replies!! Xx

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chloesmumtoo · 15/03/2018 16:27

Thats okay 101waystoworry. Keep us posted on how you get on with it all

Gemini69 · 15/03/2018 17:14

MN really gets on my nerves sometimes! Never heard of a chick allergy, some bb holders can't really be disabled because they 'appear' normal, people on benefits shouldn't have a holiday and on and on.....Pathetic!

oh dear.. bad day Hmm

Gemini69 · 15/03/2018 17:16

A prime example. So you havent heard of it does that mean it doesnt exist? hmm

and your response is a Prime example of being a Dick when I was stating a genuine reply.. and I've NEVER heard of a Chick allergy....

Gileswithachainsaw · 15/03/2018 17:24

Sorry this happened to you op dd is allergic to guinea pigs gets all blotchy and sneezy and sniffly. Nothing an anti histamine doesn't sort but I'd still expect4 a school to read the bloody forms.

Just because it's unusual or not anaphylactic doesn't mean people get to decide it's bollocks Hmm

I swear schools think it doesn't matter unless there's an epi pen involved. Despite knowing she has eczema and as explaining she reacts to skin care products her year 2 teacher thought she knew better and made her wear face paint for am Xmas pls. Then said nothing when she turned up the next day with a rash all over her face.

It's for you to decide when to try again not the school Flowers

RadioGaGoo · 15/03/2018 17:28

Gemini69. I think the lack of a singular full stop may have put a certain inflection on your post.

Gemini69 · 15/03/2018 17:29

does it ................................................................................................. Grin

LagunaBubbles · 15/03/2018 19:23

Aye right so you were Gemini, if it had been a genuine question you would have used a question mark not.....

Gemini69 · 15/03/2018 19:50

it wasn't a question.. it was a Statement of fact... I've never heard of a Chick allergy..

SunshineAfterRain · 15/03/2018 20:00

My daughter has asthma, i write it on all her paperwok. The school 'forgot' and she took ill on sports day and no one had an inhaler for her.
I found it is better to deal with these things over email as you have proof of communication etc.
And you idea of the allergy test is a great idea. Good luck Flowers

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