To expect more?

[Mummynotmama]

I have a fantastic husband who is an amazing dad to our 2 DD (age 1 and 2).

However, I am at a loss at how to cope with the lack of input he has into the daily running of our lives. He washes the baby’s bottles, empties the dishwasher and goes above and beyond with the kids. But I do everything else. ALL household chores, fixing anything that breaks, mowing lawn, organising work on house, redecorating, shopping, all money and bills, recently sorted our will and remortgaged the house. We speak about it regularly but he just seems totally oblivious to what actually needs to be done to keep our lives running. I can’t bear to nag and as I said he doesn’t do it to be annoying, just doesn’t seem to occur to him!

Does anyone else have this issue or has been able to resolve it? I put up with it most of the time but about once a month I break.

Going back to work soon to a job that requires a couple of hours work in the evening and can’t bear the thought of it!

Please do let me know if I’m being dramatic! It’s just that other couples I know seem to have a bit more of a balance?

Make a list of all the jobs you do. Talk to your husband. Divide the tasks.

Would he not be open to that?

He's not doing anything because you're inadvertently allowing this by doing it yourself. He's taking the piss big time.

Agree, sit down and write a list of what he will be doing from now on. If he pulls his face then you really have to rethink things.

Why on earth should you do all of the above?

Some people just don't notice what needs doing. If you want him to do something try just saying "can you mow the lawn please while I do the cooking" or whatever.

He's not doing anything because you're inadvertently allowing this by doing it yourself.
^^this. You are going back to work, sit down with him and schedule your chores including allocating the time in the evenings with him responsible for the kids baths and bedtimes, making pack lunches, etc in the 2 hours you are ‘at work’ in the evening.

I'd be inclined to write it out and divide it up. But yes, your set up seems completely out of balance.