I'm pregnant with dc3. 2 previous dcs to my ex. Met someone new and now married.
When me and the ex split, he moved 120 miles away. I was on my own for 2 years before meeting dh. Ex always struggled with the fact I've moved on.
Anyway pregnant with dc3. Didn't plan on telling my ex straight away but I had too as I was in hospital a lot at the start of my pregnancy and dcs were staying with my mum. Ex would ring to speak to the kids and I explained to him I was in hospital and he would need to ring my mum to speak to them.
After a week he messaged me asking why I was in hospital so much and I thought I couldn't lie so told him I was pregnant. I got no response. I didn't think much of it tbh. I wasn't expecting a congrats message of anything.
Fast forward to now and the dcs now know I'm pregnant and are so excited. They each have a scan pic and they've taken it to school, to dance lessons, everything. They've shown it to everyone. They literally are the happiest kids on the planet right now :-)
They are spending this weekend coming with their dad and have already said they are taking the pictures of the baby to show dad and his family (ex still lives at home with his mum and dad). They obviously don't see it as a problem, they are very young. I tried to get them to leave the picture here but they are absolutely adamant they have to take them.
I messaged him earlier to say the dcs know about the baby and they want to show him the picture and tell him all about it and was he ok with that. I've still had no response from him and I know he won't reply. Maybe I was wrong for doing that? I don't know. I sort of thought I'd get a 'yeah no problem' reply
Now I don't know what to do, should I let them take the pictures? I don't want to rub my ex nose in it. Either way they are going to mention it to him because they are so excited and they cannot help that. We split up over 5 years ago and he's in a relationship as far as I'm aware.
I think it's probs best the kids don't take the pics as upset as they will be. I know his whole family are
really happy as they've commented on my fb baby announcement post.
I spoke to my friend earlier though who said let them take the pics, who cares what he thinks. It was years ago now and he needs to move on. And he should be happy that his kids are so happy.
I just want to tread carefully as me moving on has affected his relationship with the kids in the past. When I told him I had met someone new, he hardly spoke to them. Same when I introduced dh to the kids and same when we got engaged and married. He never rings to ask how they are or anything. He won't answer if we ring either.
So I dunno, what does everyone think? Soz for the waffling. I do realise this isn't a massive deal either. I just don't want to upset dcs if I don't have too.