Is this a stupid thing to do?

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Someone recently finished things with me/has gone cold with me, and we have left it - all fine.

I am going on a couple more dates this week though and one guy has asked to meet in a specific area of our city, which also happens to be where guy #1 lives. Just round the corner in fact I rarely go to that part of town voluntarily even though I visited guy #1 there and loved it.

Would it be terrible to arrange our date there? And would I look like a freak if guy #1 sees us there...

If you loved the area then go. You’ll be wrapped up in your new date, not looking around so unlikely to see him first if he does happen to be in the same place at the same time. He will see you first and is not likely to come over and interrupt your date (hopefully!)

I'd prefer to meet somewhere else in case I bumped into him. I probably wouldn't be able to relax on the date, but I tend to overthink things.

depends if the new guy lives near there or there
and if you're definitely over
and how long and how serious it was

I would avoid because its too soon unless its an activity that can't be done elsewhere e.g. the only cinema in the city is there.

Thanks! I’m feeling a bit screw you towards him so there is an ulterior motive in that I hope he sees me looking good/having fun...

It was an intense but short thing (month-long) and he went cold a few days ago! So it’s very recent and it hurt me but it wasn’t a big deal - we weren’t “exclusive” or properly together.

I’d probably try to have it somewhere else. Why are you going somewhere you don’t especially want to for a date with new guy as well as guy #1? Why can’t you meet somewhere you like going?

Thanks! I’m feeling a bit screw you towards him so there is an ulterior motive in that I hope he sees me looking good/having fun..

I wondered if that’s what you were thinking - that’s really transparent tbh. I reckon he’ll see straight through it and you’ll end up looking like you care a lot about the break up. So, if “screw you, I’m so happy and don’t even care” is what you wanted to project, I don’t think you’ll achieve it, unless the guy#1 is an idiot.

so you're not over him......
it's unfair using someone to stir jealousy..

I don't think it would work anyway.

I mean unless hes under 20 why would he care if he already ended things? move on.

for it eork it has to jappen naturally by co incidence otherwise as thedaily said it's too obvious and shows youre not over him.

He hasn’t really ended things, more left open-ended

You sound like you’re playing silly games tbh. I feel a bit sorry for guy#2. Guy#1 maybe enjoys silly games, so feel less sorry for him.