This post made me smile

[Evelynismycatsformerspyname]

AIBU to think "this made me smile" is never the nice friendly comment it looks like, and is always sneery or patronising or defensive.

I hate seeing that comment now. I'm not sure whether it's a recent thing, or something that I've failed to notice until recently. It is a friendly sounding phrase, never meant in a friendly way

Yabvu. I say it when I read something heart warming or funny.

Hmm, not sure I agree. I’ve used this and genuinely meant it. Not as bad as “I have just spat my coffee/tea/wine over the keyboard 😂” Really? Then why are you still typing and not frantically trying to minimise as much damage as you can?

It means what it says surely.

There are no lines to read between!

I always think it’s nicely meant

Jeez, no...

Can't see how you're reading anything in to that at all, other than what it says

shesalady that's how it should be used!

But I keep reading it on here, written when what posters actually mean is "this made me sneer at how stupid other people are".

Even worse is "I'm reading this giggling" or similar - also implying merryment at the expense of others or because the poster feels everyone has misunderstood them and wants to pretend that this is amusing rather than upsetting or telling.

I'd think "this made me smile" was a nice comment, I wouldn't think it was a snide comment unless the context makes it obvious.

I don't know if I'm an eternal optimist or if other people go out of their way to look for offence

I'll only put that if something genuinely did make me smile. It's a way of letting the person know they just brightened up your day a little bit.

Mission that one's just hyperbolic though

Are you somehow confusing smile with “think you’re a wanker”?

Yabu.
I always genuinely mean it when I write that.
I think it's a lovely thing to say.

Cross post. Yes, I see you are.

It would make zero sense written in a snidey manner, honestly.
It's just you.

I see it positively, why wouldn't you?!

I'll try to give an example without making it a taat...

People will be having a grumble about some everyday challenge, say people standing about with trolleys chatting and blocking the aisles in supermarkets at busy times.

Someone will come along and say "this thread makes me smile, because I am a superior being who remains calm and zen at all times, and just thinks "how lovely that these people are chatting" and turns my trolley around and forgoes buying nice ham this week in order not to interrupt"

• not a real thread, and probably not a brilliant example...

Or someone posts about struggling to potty train, and someone else replies

"This makes me smile, because I have teens, which is much harder, and remember cleaning up poo and pee accidents with fondness, ah simpler times, enjoy those wonderful times, they go so fast and things only get worse" (the smile is condescending)

No? Ok, just me then!

I always mean it genuinely. It's when I can't think of anything to contribute, but want to express appreciation. It's like smiling at a stranger.

Well, I've seen smug posters who belittle others to act as a leap-pad for their own virtue but I've never seen it with a "that made me smile" and never left to stand without being robustly challenged.

People do look back fondly on the difficulties they no longer need to endure...!

Why would you read something negative into that. You might as well ignore everything everyone says and assume the worst. YABU.

I opened your thread because I expected a funny, heartwarming story to read along with my tea!

That made me smile AllisLost, wish I had time for tea.

Like that, op?

Sorry, should have put a smiley there to show I was joking or something

Yes like that Element !

OK I will accept the majority verdict - it's just me being overly cynical and nobody else is reading those posts as condescending or sneery!

Disagree, I always think it’s nicely meant.
Naïve?

Oh!.........

I’m now worried, because when a post makes me smile, that’s usually what I put. No doubt someone, somewhere thinks I was being sarcastic or even a complete bitch, when all I meant was. This . Made. Me. Smile.