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AIBU to upset by this text?

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SleepyBadger · 14/03/2018 10:12

No idea if I’m completely overreacting to this or not or if I’ve just been a bit silly...prepared to be completely shot down...

My son has chicken pox and I posted something on social media to effect of ‘Oh no DS has caught the pox!’ with a sad face emoji and chicken emoji. This was a few days ago.

I got a text from my mum today saying my uncle had phoned her to ask how my son is and she said that he mentioned he was really shocked and a bit disgusted I had referred to it as ‘the pox’ as that is a slang term for a certain STI. I literally had no knowledge of this :( maybe im just a little naive. Is it a really old slang term? It’s obvious my friends on social media knew what I was talking about and nobody else has taken offence.

I’m genuinely really upset. I’m 11 weeks pregnant and just feeling really sensitive and stuff like this really winds me up.

I have deleted the post. AIBU to be upset by the text? I just don’t think there was any need really!

TIA

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GetoutofthatGarden · 14/03/2018 11:44

Well I didn't know either. Your uncle is being totally unreasonable, he needs to find something better to do with his time.

MirriVan · 14/03/2018 11:45

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GetoutofthatGarden · 14/03/2018 11:46

Nice bit of ageism there @Idontdowindows. I have never heard anyone call chicken pox 'the pox'

For god's sake give it a rest will you. No wonder every thread turns into a slanging match. Stop looking for things to be offended about.

SleepyBadger · 14/03/2018 11:51

@MirriVan I have watched Blackadder and I also enjoy period dramas most recently ITV’s Victoria (pretty sure the topic has come up in that too with the depiction of Albert’s brother and his STI woes!), but I genuinely didn’t think or ever imagine someone would be shocked by the terminology I used...bearing in mind the context I used the term in (9 month old DS, chicken emoji etc)

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WhatATimeToBeAlive · 14/03/2018 11:51

I wouldn't bother sending a text to someone but yes I would childishly snigger if someone put on Faceache that they had the pox.

Idontdowindows · 14/03/2018 11:52

For god's sake give it a rest will you

I think it's funny that they think being aware of linguistic differences between generations and the development of language over time is ageist. Had a good laugh about that one :D

MarklahMarklah · 14/03/2018 12:02

When DD had chicken pox, I have a feeling I posted something like: "I have a poxy child at home."

Ridiculous to have texted you about it.

MirriVan · 14/03/2018 12:08

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SeekEveryEveryKnownHidingPlace · 14/03/2018 12:09

A pox is a disease. Chicken pox, cowpox, small pox.... and 'the pox' to refer to syphilis without actually naming it. Like, it's the disease, iyswim.

But they're all poxes! 'Contagious diseases' used to be a euphemism for STDs, but that doesn't mean you can't talk about contagious diseases without it meaning STDs.

Your uncle is being silly.

Goodasgoldilox · 14/03/2018 12:10

Your Uncle has a serious condition - sense of humour failure. I hope he recovers soon.

SleepyBadger · 14/03/2018 12:11

@WhatATimeToBeAlive childishly sniggering probably says more about you than the person posting. It’s evident it has multiple meanings (if you look at a dictionary) and not everybody’s mind jumps straight to the gutter, especially when it’s in the context in which I used it I.e about a 9 month old baby.

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SleepyBadger · 14/03/2018 12:20

@MirriVan yep I realise I am being overly sensitive. I am that way inclined anyway especially when it comes to things to do with my kids. Not helped by the crazy pregnancy hormones 🤣

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ToadOfSadness · 14/03/2018 12:21

'Old people' indeed, it is a traditional name for syphilis. People that studied English Lit would know it.

It is still used and can include pus filled diseases but I only ever came across it at school in English Lit and History, I might be considered 'old' but am not from the Shakesperian era.

DullAndOld · 14/03/2018 12:26

lol yes, 'the pox' used to mean syphilis...I am in my early 50s.

My dad uses the word 'poxy' quite a lot to describe anything not to his liking.

I honestly wouldn't give it another thought...

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 14/03/2018 12:39

@WhatATimeToBeAlive childishly sniggering probably says more about you than the person posting

Yeah it says I've got a childish sense of humour - what of it?

Clandestino · 14/03/2018 12:44

Your uncle must be really bored.
I know what that is (read way too many old books) but hell, wouldn't expect many know it just because I do.

laddylonglocks · 14/03/2018 15:56

I called it The Pox too. Your uncle is far too pedantic.

Celticrose · 14/03/2018 16:38

@Kerala 1 yes twat. Had that explained to me last yearHmm and also thought the pox referred to small pox even when I heard it used as a joke as in Blackadder. I am late fifties Blush and used to read lots of period novels. Some things obviously went over my head

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