8 year old taking forever to get dressed

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I am pulling my hair out.

My Dd 8 is taking a short age to get dressed into uniform in the morning. Think 40 mins. Constant chat . Singing.

I know from school chats , the teachers give them 5 minutes after swimming and PE so I know she can do it

We have a long commute to school and her slowness is making us late . I am so angry. I've tried everything but she just won't hurry up

How long does your child take to get ready for school ?

Who’s she chatting to? Mines like this so rule is he gets dressed before coming down to breakfast. His DS get dressed in room quickly and comes down for breakfast too so he has no one to chat to!

I’d put a timer on it and make a game of it.

Surely you’re already late?

My dc know that if they don’t get dressed by the time we’re leaving at 8:30 then they go in whatever they have on!.... We’ve never got to that point thankfully but it seems to work

Put the clock forward so you've time in hand and give him warning that you'll be leaving when he's had 5 minutes to get dressed no matter what he's wearing. Then do it. Even if you have to let him get to the car in pjs. Doubt he'll delay many times!

The clock going forward is to get this done in a timely manner but also to teach that time is not standing still.

I guess Im harsh because mine always knew we left when it was time to leave, ready or not (I have a real thing about being late ). Does she have access to a clock? If so, sit her down and work out the timings together - in order to be put the door by 8 you need to be dressed by x, have had breakfast by y and be putting on your shoes by z. Write it up, give her a copy, then mean it.

Who is she chatting too? Are in the room with her? If not, get in there and chivvy her, hand her each item in order.

I once took my 6 year old daughter to school in her nightie for just the same thing. [Back story is that I had two under 18 months to get ready too so her co-operation in the school run was pretty essential.] I strapped her in the car with her uniform in a carrier bag on her lap and told her "Never mind darling, I'm sure Mrs. Parker and your friends won't mind that you didn't want to get dressed this morning...."
Funnily enough by the time we arrived at school she was fully dressed including a very good attempt at her tie.
With 5DD's I had a pretty calm way of parenting in the name of keeping my sanity.
Fast forward 25 years and she is now an assistant head of a very large primary and we often laugh about that particular incident - she wasn't traumatised at all she says, so I haven't had to add it to my list of parental transgressions!
Good luck OP - they grow out of most things IME.

good on you reckless.... that's our threat too. We've never gone that far, which I'm sad about!

No we are not already late.
Thanks for the helpful comment

I am standing by the door waiting for her to get ready brush teeth etc

We have tried timer , Chart , times , nothing seems to matter . Currently she has 1.15 hr to get up , get dressed , brush teeth , hair and bowel of cereal yet still is struggling every day

She chats to herself .
I think maybe I'm asking too much of her but at nearly 9 I would have expected she would be a bit more independent

she's pushing your buttons, kids do that. It's fun to piss parents off.

Calmly state that if she's not dressed by a certain time she will be going to school in whatever she is wearing at that moment. You should only need to follow through once, if at all. Take the rest of the clothes with if you do it.

Well excuse me for asking!... funny how you totally dismissed my other comment though

I am standing by the door waiting for her to get ready brush teeth etc

Do you really stand watching her dawdle for 40 minutes?

You need to be in the room right beside her handing her pants, then socks, then blouse, then skirt, then jumper then shoes. It really can’t take more than 5 minutes.