Swimming

[LouieLou2013]

More of a WWUD but anyway.

DS4 has a swimming lesson after school. DSS9's Mum is ill so I'm grabbing him from school.

I usually use the ladies changing rooms but have seen outrage on here regarding male pre-teens in female changing rooms.

To be clear it will be children getting changed, communal changing rooms.

Do I take them both to the men's?

Get him to wait outside the changing rooms, then when you are ready to go through to the pool (assuming that is where you wait during the lesson) get him to walk through the male changing rooms and meet you the other side.

Personally I can't see the problem with a 9 year old boy being in female changing rooms but I know some people have a problem with that. It happens a lot where I swim and no one seems to mind at all. Bit different if he was a teenager but at 9 I think it is fine.

If the older children were ok about getting changed in front of members of the opposite sex then there wouldn't be separate m/f changing rooms. But they aren't, so there are. 8 and over - stick to your own side. This includes parents.

Good grief.

There's no need for a non-swimming (and therefore fully-dressed himself) nine-year-old to be in the ladies' changing room. Adult women with nine-year-olds might not be bothered, but any girls of the same age, actually taking their clothes off? They probably will be.

So don't risk making them uncomfortable.

Surely this is a no brainer? Just send him to wait wherever you watch the swimming lesson from. If it means going through the changing rooms to get there, send him through the male changing rooms.
I’m not entirely sure what the issue is?

To be clear it will be children getting changed, communal changing rooms.

Why don't you just stay in the communal bit?

So 9 year old goes in via the men’s changing rooms (if that is access to where you watch) and waits for you there.

One of my friends was in a similar situation and wasn't able to have a second child. They went on to adopt a little girl. Is this something you would consider?

Soory wrong thread!