AIBU to want to move house again?

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I've just moved into a nice house with my boyfriend i have been excited for months to finally get away and not have no one no where i live.
my brother is a heroin addict he use to show up at my mums when i was living there and he would inject in the toilet leave his heroin needle and spoons in the bathroom. My son found the needle it was covered in blood he also has hepatitis c and that was the last straw for me i had to move out.

I was in the back garden yesterday and all i could hear is my brother shouting my name and banging down my door i went into the kitchen and peeped out the window and my little sister was with him so she gave him my address.

She is only 14 but i have never felt so angry in my life, shes apologised but i cant believe someone can be so stupid when she knows what happened last time.

We have a 6 month contract left on this house but i cant help feeling like i just want to leave now

Oh love I know exactly how you feel . My brother's a heroin addict too. Had him on the phone the other day threatened to come over to talk demand money in person. Luckily we are in the next town and he didn't have the fare. I'd love to be untraceable too.

Have you spoken to your dsis school about what's happening at home?

I don't think moving will solve it unless you move a couple of hours drive away. You can't blame your dsis, he probably threatened her. Can you access help for your dsis? If you feel threatened by your addict brother, call for help.

Just because he turns up doesn’t mean you have to let him in. Make it clear he’s not welcome - make sure it’s in writing too (email or text), then call the police if he’s harassing you.
Sorry you’re going through this. Moving won’t help, find your boundaries OP.

It's not about just not letting them in though - it's the stress of never knowing when they are going to turn up, or be waiting on the doorstep when you get home. It's about the pounding on the door that scares your kids, or the neighbours watching when you call the police roll up again.

Yes to keeping boundaries up but being a bit further away can help too.