to expect dss to at least introduce me to his new gf before having her to stay the night when I am away?

[Carmenere]

Dss has a new gf (he is 18). Dp and I went to Bristol on Sat night to see dsd in a play in uni. Dss was minding dd and very enthusiastic for us to go. Dd tells me that dss gf stayed the night. I am more than a little peed off because he diddn't a)introduce me to this girl who he has brought into my house whilst he is minding my dd and b) just bleeding well ask me!! I wouldn't have said no. I am happy that he has a gf and am happy to treat him as an adult as long as he behaves as one.

There was no need for him to sneak around and be decietful and I am very disappointed with him

Hmmm. I think the answer's going to depend on how old you are. Being a very old bat of 43, and a parent, I'd say he should introduce her. But I suspect that being 18, he just didn't think of it.

Did you know she was coming around at all ?

He is in his defence very good with Carmeneres DD.

hmm would have been nice if he had asked but then again when your 18 you really don't just think about stuff like that.

Do you think he was too embarrased to ask?

Have to say though that if you trust his judgement enough to leave hime to mind your DD overnight then he sounds like a good lad who wouldn't have just bought anyone back.

Come on............C

Remember your hormones ?

He was at home babysitting, not out and about.

Pink Elephant ??

I don't think you are being unreasonable. My DB (who was 25 at the time) had his gf stay overnight without my mum knowing until she bumped into her in the kitchen next morning. DM was livid - she only met his gf once and that was for 5 minutes. It was the fact he never asked her beforehand which p*ssed her off, if she had known she wouldn't have minded, but at the end of the day DB's gf is a stranger to her.

Ladies my point here is trust. I don't mind her staying and I trust him enough that she is probably a nice girl but I just don't like him sneaking around. Particularly when there is no need. I'm 36, I remember it well and my parents would have hit the roof if I had brought a boy home, they didn't mind what I did in my own flat but in their house, well....

I apreciate that he looks after dd but I can't help but wonder that with the amount of hickeys on his neck that she may not have had much attention

I didn't know she was coming around at all and I wouldn't have minded if he had just asked me.

OK

Sorry didn't realise you weren't told.

Thought it had just gone from helping babysit to her staying the night.

Why the aeroplane name Lgj?

No, he should have checked with you, but like others have said 18 yos dont always think. Have you spoken to him about it?

I agree he should have told you Carmenere. I hate it when DS brings strange girls into my house (and they have been). He should have asked your permissionIMO.

I have spoken to him and he just went red and mumbled sorry. She is coming over to dinner tommorow night apparently, I won't be here(away for work) but dp promises that he will have a few pints after work and embarrass him

LGJ LGJ who is this LGJ of whom you speak ??

Arse am I that obvious ?

No, I'd be a bit peeved too, at not being inroduced to her.

Only to me dearie