I know I’m being U - how to stop being bitter

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I am eaten up by bitterness
About things an ex did 20 years ago
Various injustices
Missed opportunities

People say ‘practice gratitude’ but I find that hard. ‘So I don’t live in the black hole of Calcutta, whoopdee doo’

I can’t be happy for friends when good things happen. I say the right things but inside I’m thinking ‘that’s so unfair, why not me’

How do I stop being unreasonably bitter?

Great advice from everyone on here
It is so hard not to get caught up in the cyclical nature of negative thinking
It can eat away at you
I imagine my ex happy with someone else and it’s like stabbing myself in the heart

It is a form of self harm, and I do deserve better! But fuck it’s hard to put it into practise

Here's another thought:

Consider how much power you are prepared to allow past events/past partners to have over the rest of your life. Find a way to arrive at a point where you can say 'Enough!!', leave it behind you while accepting that a whole load of undeserved shit had unfairly come your way, but, as the trite saying goes, today is the first day of your marvellous future life, then fake it, til you make it.

Don't allow him to have more power over you than he deserves. Which sounds like should be nothing/nil/zilch/zero/zip.

Can't remember the exact phrase but something like 'being bitter is like eating poison and expecting your enemy to die'..

Yes i love that, it's so true