Friends partner doing school run...aibu

[Hungrymonk82]

Live in a rural area where the schoo is 6 miles away so we share the school run with a family in our village. Lately our friends bf has been driving and he doesn't have a full licence. Although my friend is in the car with him who holds a full licence I'm not too happy as he's not had a lesson in years, displays no L plates and I'm not 100% sure he's on the insurance. AIBU and a bit precious to feel uneasy and worried everytime he's driving? Is it worth mentioning or just leave it as?

Learners are allowed passengers. I had to have DS in the car with me when learning.

Wouldn't let my dog in that car, let alone my child.

Ermmm... definately would not let my children stay in this neighbours care what so ever if she thinks that this is remotely acceptable. I would have gone nuclear upon finding out and more than likely reported the incident to the police. There is a reason this man does not have a license and that is because he cannot drive!

I'm assuming he does have a provisional though, and you really can't say whether he's insured or not. I would just tell her that you appreciate the car share works well for both of you. However you don't feel comfortable with her bf practising with the kids in the car (distracting if nothing else). If she's not willing to do the driving on the way to drop them off, let her know you'll no longer be using the arrangement.

I'd also give her a heads up about the L plates... the lack of them could indicate he's not above board learning in her car.

Learners are definitely allowed passengers, the weeks before my test my mum and dad had me doing all the family driving that didn't involve motorways as they told me I needed the practice!

Lack of L plates is not on though, and even with L plates I wouldn't have my DC in that car. It's one thing when it's your family and your choice but I think it's very off to just assume you would be ok with this.

Unfortunately you might have to give up on the school run sharing agreement if she's unhappy with you raising this. DC safety come firs though. I'd be concerned they might be high spirited after school and that's hard enough to concentrate with even as an experienced driver.

WTAF? no no and no! dont let your child go and for the sake of other kids raise this concern so that they are aware if they're not.

I wouldn't let him drive my DC to school, not until he has passed his test and would explain that its not legal. Out of interest are they from another country? the rules are different in Ireland and other countries, a neighbour though that eh was ok to drive on a provisional on his own, he had a minor accident and was prosecuted and fined.

Tell her the arrangement and s no longer working for you and you will just do the school run for your own kids each day.

I’d rather risk a friendship than my child’s life.

Nope. Nope. Nope!

Why the hell would you allow this?!

Please stop it immediately.

There may be a reason he hasn't taken his test. I don't understand why she doesn't drive them herself. Are you sure she goes along every time? Is he using the school run as practise?

I would not allow my child in that car.

He does have a provisional licence and this isn't something thats been happening regularly over a long period of time. Only noticed in the last week or so. I will bring it up and end the agreement with them. Thanks for your input

He's not qualified and the person 'teaching' should know better

I'd make my own arrangements from now in

Hello No. He should have L plates as a minimum and insurance. The reason they look for these kind of drivers is because these are the ones who think they are safe but dangerous and case accidents!

Bet his professional has expired as well.

Why do you think he's nor insured?

Your child(ren) are the most precious assets you will ever have. Why on earth would you risk their lives with an inexperienced driver..........

Okay, so explain to me the conversation where you learnt he couldn’t drive?
If it was before now, and him driving them is a recent thing, is it possible he had passed his test?
If it was recently you were told, why haven’t you already said something to your friend?

I just don’t understand how a situation like this happens with it THEN needing to be discussed/stopped whatever as it shouldn’t have even started.

So all you know is that he doesn't have L plates? Because you are making a massive judgement on the insurance. You don't know if he is on the policy or not, but I can't see why you think your friend wouldn't have added him?

Just a feeling I have that he's not insured but like others have said even if he is he won't be now without his L plates on show.

Is she really going to risk losing her car and voiding her own insurance if he's not? And potentially he may have passed his test and that's why you've only seen him driving it this last week.

I think you need to ask her really...

L plates are required for a reason. Not least of all to warn other drivers so they can make allowances. I would be concerned about whether he had an provisional license and was a named learner driver on the car insurance.

Ive known them for many years and he had lessons about 6 years ago but never took his test, it would be a big thing if he passed and we'd definitely know. Like I say this is the third time it's happened and I'm not happy about it and it won't be happening again.

I'd just ask casually if he'd passed his test. He may easily have passed it recently.